what do u do if u have plans to hang out with a girl and she makes up an excuse?

well number 1, her excuse may have been valid. she might have been busy.

number 2, did you excesivly call her or txt her?

number 3, you said you made plans, but i'm curious as to whether or not you made them during your social interaction with her and built comfort after? think about those.

lasty, normally when you ask a girl to come over, you should always keep in mind ASD. for instance, you tell her, "come over" normally she wont comply, however if you say, "come over. but bring me some cookies, i'm high maintenance." instead of saying no right away, her mind will be occupied by the bring me some cookies, and she'll normally reply with "haha... what kind of cookies" or something. notice she didn't say no.

no i didn't call or text excessively. it was more the other way around. she sent me hella messages on myspace. i just replied.

im pretty sure she's into this other guy. at least thats what it seems like from bulletins she posts on myspace.

and this is the second time she flaked on me 2. We only hung out once.

Don't let her know this is getting to you instead play it off like you have plenty of options (which may or may not be true) some girls do this to gauge your reaction. If she does flake let her know its unacceptable behavior and she needs to be punished (dont sound needy). Take the power back and let her know whos in control, tell her youll call her later in the week if you have some time.

The idea behind this is that she will see you have your shit together, feel uncomfortable and notice how much better she feels when she complies.

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Find something else to do and don't dwell on it.

Hey, I'm in the same situation as you are. First time she flaked, I told her to "call me when she wants to see me". And then continued gaming her (online and over the phone). We met up a few times since then, and yesterday she flaked on me again.

I'll be watching this thread with interest. Thanks for starting it.