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WTFFFF this is sick.. Shes ever had sex before and wants to wait for a nice guy, then you swoop in wind her so tightly she is about to tsunami from between the legs then violate her against her sober mind wishes..!?
No. READ what I said closely.
She has reservations. Just like when your buddy tells you to dive off the cliff for the first time, you have some reservations, but you want to do it. You know you'll enjoy it and you tell yourself, "One of these days, just not now." But when your buddy says, "GO! Just DO IT!" and you jump, you love it.
If she's making out with you and she likes you, you have a connection with her and she is willing to take her clothes off and exchange oral/manual sex, then she's probably willing to have full on sex, she's just afraid that it will make her a slut, or that the guy will run out on her right after. So she wants to make it special and she wants it to be safe and secure and have the guy chained to her with marriage, so there is no chance of abandonment. If you're in a relationship with her, where you aren't going to abandon her as soon as you sleep with her, you like the girl and she likes you, then you demonstrate the things you need to make her feel comfortable and then if she doesn't stop you, you have sex.
This is just an advanced form of LMR and should be handled as such. If she is truly serious about not having sex until she gets married, then she will make it clear and she won't give you the chance, because it is something she values highly. If she just has the fears I described, then when you negate those fears and she is arroused, she will have sex with you, whereas the serious girl won't.