Hi there,

yesterday I went to have dinner with a friend (male), and he found in this bar a friend of him (femal) who was with 2 other friends (girls as well), we weren't going to sit with them, he just stoped and started talking to her for 5 minutes...

I could have been talking to these two other girls, but I didn't what to say!

It's funny that after reading about dhv, rutines or whatever I didn't have a f*****g clue about what to say!!

It was a backpakers bar, and those girls I guess would be travelling around the country. I could have asked about that, but its always the same conversation (where have you been, what have you seen, where are you from, blablablablabla... boring!!!!)

What would have you said??

Ab.

What I would have said probably wouldnt help that much for you. You are allready in set so there is no use for an opener. just jump into anything. What you could do is on a piece of paper write down a bunch of conversation threads. Keep that list going till you get 20 good ones. Try them out in the field, if you have trouble remembering, send them to yourself in a text and pretend to be reading a text someone sent you then "oh, that reminds me ..." and keep em going. After you have field tested them many times, narrow that list down from the good ones that work great and the ones that work and the ones that dont. Then do it again from scratch, try new ones and find out which list to put them on. Once you have a good ammount of ones that work great, dont worry about the good ones anymore. Just use the great ones. After you tell them enough times, you will be able to adjust them to make em better and they will get imprinted into your memory so you can spit em out without even thinking. That is canned material now.

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