I'm 30, can't say my sex life has been bad throughout the years but it always came from relationships that I was in, but now that I'm single again, I'm just curious how this works and the best way to go about it?

Couple questions:
1. How do you approach the matter? If I meet a girl, it's usually under the assumption that we want this to lead something more than sex. So do you straight up tell her that's all you're looking for?

2. How do you even go about looking for a FWB? Do you go after girls that were into you but didn't want a relationship, do you go after girls that like you but you don't like them (which seems messed up to me)..

Basically how do you approach the matter, how did you meet your FWB? Seems like chicks at my age only want to be "all in" or "all out" as far as that kind of stuff goes (meaning they either want a relationship or they aren't interested).

Sorry just curious about this...I've never understood the dynamic and how some guys can get women to go along with it, because I've never been successful...my game must be way off. Lol

My limited experience with FWB is that of girls who were totally open about their sexuality. One told me, the first hour we started talking, stuff like "my sister is sexier than me, but I get more dicks than her." Another one told me over our first message exchange that she's thinking about finding a sugar daddy to pay college, and how easy it's for her to find one-night-stands. So that flipped my honesty switch and in return I mentioned that I would never go exclusive, the same way I would have said "I would never live in Siberia, too cold." Meanwhile we were sexually escalating, and so we ended up having sex, and after that they knew what to expect from me. But they liked me so they kept coming for more.

So 1) Yes and 2) Go after everybody you're interested in. Main idea, as in many, many aspects of pick-up: be unapologetic about what you want.

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