Hello to all! This is my first post, let's see how it goes.

Met this girl at a club about a month ago, a 10 by anybody's standards. We started talking that evening, everything was going well. Somewhere during the night, she lets me know that she has a BF. However, before this admission, she sure as hell didn't act it. Anyways, night ends, we make out, get the number, I am a peace. Next day or two, I text her, no answer. Wait a day, she answers, one liners, short responses, etc. I forgot to mention that she was at this club with her friend (guy), no threat. He himself, at the end of the night, made an admission of: "bro, I dunno how you pulled that one off." <-- (getting her number, grinding, make out, etc.). The night ended with everybody agreeing that we would meet up next weekend and go out again. So, naturally, I try to make plans with the girl (no answer). Meanwhile, the dude is reaching out saying that they (him, her and a few other friends) want to come out. Next weekend rolls around, they all come out to another club along with some of my friends. I go right for the girl, with her all night, close to each other, going well. While at this club, I ask her, "Hey do you want to get out of here just me and you and go somewhere else?" Surprisingly, she agrees to leave this club to go to another one, ditched her friends. We leave, get in the cab, all over each other while en route to Club 2. Night ends, take her home, nothing happens past that. She hits me the next morning saying thanks for last night, was fun blah blah. We go back and forth and then convo drops off. Pretty much same thing happens again 2 days later on a Monday night (Halloween.) I tell her that I want to take her out of the club scene and actually get to know her blah blah. She agrees that she wants to as well. Hit her the next day or two, nothing. Her friends reaches out says she lost her phone on the way home- fine. Don't hear from her for a week, than randomly one night she t bombs me at 1230 at night saying she's got a phone now, don't hate me. Anyways, long story short since then I've attempted to get her to come out only to have either no response or that she can't.

What do I do next?

Why would you take her to Club 2 when you are qall over each other before? That's time to take her home. Women are very of the moment.



You're acting like a friend. Texting chit0chats, failing to escalate, etc. This is a woman who isn't being sexually satisfied by her boyfriend, She just wants to fuck, not marry you.


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lol. Shocking.

Classic case. A sexually frustrated woman is unhappy with her boyfriend. She wants a man to dominate and lead sexually. It seemed like you did that early on, but then you dropped the ball by going pointlessly to another club. You told her you wanted to take her somewhere, just "you and her", yet you went out in public and not to your place?

And when a woman texts you at 12:30, you immediately ask her to come over. Damn, man. And I say this because I've made the same mistake, lol. Again, women are very much of the moment. Until you make them orgasm a lot, they're going to be all over the map. When they hit you up, close.

My advice: She's shown that she will hit you up when you back off. Wait for her to text you again, and immediately invite her over. No "dates" no "let's have a group hang out at the goofy club" bullshit. Lead and escalate.

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Thanks for the response! Some good points in there, especially the one on dropping off leading. I actually thought about that, I softened up on her, good point.

12:30 text, was sleeping.

I'll admit, I've mismanaged at certain points during this one. Gut tells me patience is the key in this one.