Hello guys,

as of recently, i've decided to include tinder in my routine. I'm not excluding anything, just barelly taking it along to send of a few messages a day. I noticed very shortly that tinder gaming is way more different then when you'd go out and talk to girls. Most guys will not talk to girls during a night out, but will on tinder which makes it more packed with guys. How do i make the best out of the first few impressions you get after getting matched? I'm not the best one when it comes down to that type of stuff.

Example - Match with HB8 with the same name as me.

Me: Nice, 2 (name) that match. I wonder who the bad one is.
Her: Hahaha, Who knows [] (pic i can't see cause my phone blows)
Me: It's your third picture that makes me wonder.
Her: Haha, why is that?
Me: you look a bit more angry, you made it on a monday morning?
Her: Hahaha, no, i can't remember where and when.
Me: cool start, same names and both having memoryloss. Whereabouts you from?

At this point, i'm already wondering what to say? I absolutely blow at saying calculated stuff, or things that are funny. I would love to learn to do this, and that's the main reason why i am using tinder.

Checkout Zak Bowman's High Status Humor, it's pretty good for guys who want to up their funny whilst escalating sexually.

Most importantly your focus should be on getting her out for a drink, or SPAM/facetime pre-date.

Online girls ghost quick, logistically they're just inundated with a lot of noise and you have to rise above the noise to hold her attention if conversation is all you're focused on. In this and a lot of other ways I find meeting women offline is much easier to do (once you get over your fear of rejection). Set the date up sooner rather than later and you can showcase your talent in person.

Good advice, i'll check it out after i come back from the gym. Do u have any straight up advice on how to handle the conversation? once i feel like the girl is interested and responding decently, i'll straight up ask. I really don't care for results, i just want to improve.

Ever hear the expression "give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime"? I won't spoon feed you, somebody else may. Telling you what to say has nothing to do with improving.

I'll have a look, it's been a weird conversation so far, she has been asking questions and playing it really hard giving some shit tests or w/e. I'll look it up right now.

If you're already having success meeting girls in person, wtf are you wasting your time on tinder for?

Succesful is a lot said, but things are going way better then a while before. I often have an hour spare time before heading off too bed, holding a few short conversations and transitioning them into dates would be a nice extra.

Bad meta, bad. Live in the moment. You're already framing this like the start to an amazing relationship. I like the "memory loss" part, but mentioning a "good start" before this girl even has your dick in her mouth is AFC-needy-relationship vibe.

your next text:

"Let's meet up at Bar X tomorrow night, 9."

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Appreciate the advice. I don't really start the conversation with any pre-defined thoughts tho. I just check pics, and use something related to open up and see where it leads. I just find it hard to really text something out of thin air while keeping it playful/fun aswell. It's been learning me a ton of stuff and it's fun to do, could help me understand what women tend to react too and in what way.

So I use tinder quite a lot, and rather successfully. I average about 3 dates a week off of it and I find the best way to go about this is to actually cut out all of the preamble. I tend to get dates in two messages.

My script goes as follows:

Message 1: [Their Name]!

If they respond (and they do about 80% of the time):

Message 2: I'm often around [location] for work, would you want to grab a drink in that neighborhood later this week?

That's it. The whole Tinder game. Most times if the girl replies to the first message she'll say yes to the date. Especially if she uses exclamation points in her response to your first message.

The great part about this method is suddenly she realizes she's agreed to a date with someone she doesn't know anything about, and will take steps to initiate more conversation. Feel free to reply but keep it light and flirty but don't reply too quickly. You've already got the date, don't feel the need to qualify yourself to her. She's going to be trying to get to know you but your game should be stronger in person, so don't give too much away.

Hope that helps fellas.

Good advise for sure, I learned this as well, get her number or arrange the date in least amount of messages. I generally get a date in 3-6 messages.

Good routines I found works for me are:

Knock Knock
&
Breakfast
&
Bank robbery

Please elaborate on these routines or give me link?