Hi!

When HB is asking me to go out - we are friends and she has BF - could it be an IOI or does she only want to talk with me as a friend? I always assume that second answer is true and do not escalate, being afraid that she would not be prepared for this, because she already LJBFed me in her mind...
Should I try to close and don't worry about what her reaction might be?

Hmmm. Could you give us a little more information on how you were asked? Also, more information on how your interactions with her generally go could help. Has she told you she has a boyfriend? You're friends and all so I'm assuming that she has, but if she hasn't yet or doesn't know that you know and fails to mention it, it could be an IOI.

The way i like to think of is 'if it feels like an IOI, its an IOI'.
But in this case she just has intrest in you as friend. But you never know, its like a game of poker, you dont know what cards she's holding and you dont know how she feels about you, all you can do is try and guess by her actions.
Make her believe that the cards you are holding are better than hers, that you are higher vaule.
So just focus on doing things that build attraction and most important just have fun, its all part of the learning

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Good point, Mozy. It seems almost like you can accurately sense that if a girl may possibly be giving you an IOI, it is most likely, in fact, an IOI. How has she been treating you lately? Is it more friendly and harmless or has she been somewhat intimate with you and dropping a lot of kino on you (more than friend kino)?

Hey how we all doing?

Yes it totally seems as she is asking like a friend. If you really want it you can succeed but why is this girl so special? You can ruin an awesome friendship, so why not look elsewhere.

You need to think if you actually want this and if it is worth losing her as a friend.

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in all my fantasies I don't know your fucking name.So what?
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