This is not the first girl in my life that "infected" me with Oneitis, so I understand that she's not that perfect. My brain tells me she's just another girl, that I shouldn't treat her specially. But the rest of my body says, she's too good for you, she is your perfect match, all you want in a girl, but you will never have her. I can't stop thinking about her, what should I do?
I would ask her out, but I'm too shy for that with her, I took some paper and wrote down what she would consider a potential partner or "her ideal man", and I am lacking in so many areas, I can never be good enough.
How do you guys handle Oneitis?

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Lets say I'm really not good enough for her? What do I do, how do I improve. I joined a gym, I try to learn some dancing moves, looking for a better job...
But is it good to start so much positive change for a girl, shouldn't my motivation be intrinsice, or more selfish

Oneitis is horrible but man you,ve not even asked this girl out by the way if you do you will probs fail from your mindset. Study here learn psycology an body language.

Your already putting yourself down i wont be able to get her man iv been rejected about 1000 times. I was chatting a 10 in work git her number she didnt reply. In my head im like your loss next!!

Im crap with women im not great but i still have the best self esteem of anyone iv ever met. Dont try imorove yourself for some girl improve yourself for you an grow a set then ask her out. Never know she might even say yes

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Wisdom. OP, read what he said a bunch of times, over and over. You see a cute girl, go speak to her. She won't bite. And will possibly really, really enjoy the attention. Do this when you see alluring women.

The reality..

The badness is, you're probably never going to get the girl that you pedestal in this manner, but the good news is that if you try you begin to put yourself in position to attract these type of women in the future. The guys that encounter this the most are impulsive guys who rarely think about their future. They're too emotionally wrapped up to consider how failing today could help them tomorrow. The only thing that they can conceive is that which is directly in front of their face.

You gotta go fail man. If you think she's too good for you its because you're right. Her social status (even if its just because of her beauty) doesn't match with your emotional fortitude. She's been beautiful long before you consistently started stepping out of your comfort zone and building emotional strength.

Go approach her man. Rejection is always better than regret. Because at least you know. Regret is something you can never fully get over, you just have to bury it. Rejection will make you stronger.

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