Went to the dentist to get fitted for a sleep apnea mouthpiece yesterday. One of the receptionists, who seemed to be in training, was ungodly cute. We had all of two seconds to speak before the main receptionist finished copying my insurance info and said I could wait, so I was thinking I might stop and ask her out when I was leaving. (I didn't because I thought I saw a wedding ring when I was checking out, but I may have just been chickening out.)

So today I had an appointment with a doctor, and she had really pretty eyes so since I was upset with myself for not taking the shot yesterday I point blank asked her out at the end of the appointment.

Doc: "You have any other questions"
Me: "Just one, could I take you out for a drink sometime?"

The doc turned out to be married, but doesn't wear her ring at work I guess. No biggie, actually felt nice to take the shot and she looked flattered as shit.

But it kinda begs the question: What's the best way to ask someone out in situations like this? You don't really have a lot of time for game or flirting, or rapport building. Especially with the receptionist, at least with the doc I had a good 20 minutes.

So basically just do what I did and accept that the odds are low? Is there better/worse ways to phrase the question? I feel like I should have started off with a compliment like "I think you have the prettiest eyes, so I was hoping we could grab a drink together?"

I'll be seeing the receptionist again in a few weeks for the follow up, so at least I get a second chance there.

No need to start out with a compliment, the main thing to do is to ask her out. We can have 1,000 pages of reports on how to say what and when but implementing them is 80% of the issue. Even if your game is mediocre and you regularly ask half interested girls out you are going to have more pussy than you can handle compared to the guy with great game that rarely asks girls out.

As far as "second chances" go, in my experience they are rarely work out. You are much better bumbling through a clumsy number close on the first encounter than waiting for the second encounter armed with the smoothest lines int he world. I believe a girl who is interested initially whom you dont make a move on mentally shifts to uninterested as soon as you leave, and its unlikely shes going to shift back to interested mode.

Well, I was mostly going with the idea that she wouldn't even remember me at all... but it turns out she wasn't even there today. One more reason to stop hesitating!

Thanks for the advice.

Your approach was fine.

I would just work on your phrase. You would be surprised at how much of a difference the tweak of one or two words can make.

" Hey, before I go.. We should grab a drink.. You free tomorrow? " Already assuming she's going to say yes; only leaving the logistics to be worked out.

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Speaking as a female who worked as a nurse and receptionist, I can tell you that if she's good looking, she likely gets hit on every day behind the desk. Just straight out asking her out isn't going to work. The medical industry is complex and there are a lot of legalities surrounding patient confidentiality and general guidelines surrounding quality of care vs. interpersonal relationships. Flat out asking a girl on a date while she's working in the medical field doesn't typically work. She'll likely shut you down and say something along the lines of, "I'm sorry, I'm not allowed to date patients."

The only times being approached worked in the guys' favor when I was assisting at the front desk was if they made it clear they were interested by asking me to spend time with them, but not asserting that they wanted to fuck or go on an actual date. For whatever reason this gives a girl an out to spend time with you even if you are a patient. One guy gave me his business card and told me he's a world class Brazillian Jiu Jitsu champion and he offers a free class to first-timers at his gym (it helped that I Googled him and he actually was). Another guy told a coworker he was really into me (of course she told me. Girls can't shut up about that sort of thing) and at his next appointment invited me to one of his basketball games (he played internationally).

Obviously I worked in sports medicine and you may not be an athlete, but you get the point. Let her know you're interested but don't come on too strong during your first approach. There's plenty of time for that when you get her alone at the venue of your choosing.

This probably goes against all the PUA advice you've been given but the medical field is different.