Hey guys,

I'm in a student group (around 40 people) at a German university, that deals with the integration program of new international students every semester. Last month I had a ONS with a friend of a girl which just newly joined our group. I turned it into a FB relationship, but without stating it explicitly that we're just fuck buddies. She never slept over so far and I only initiate conversation for meeting up so I guess she's getting the message (avoiding all BF behavior).

At the moment we're having exams here, so I'm not seeing that social circle much, but from march/april on there will be a lot of parties where I will be around people from this group. As the two girls are close friends, I'm pretty sure the girl from my group knows I'm fucking her friend.

My question now: Is it okay to still hit on girls in front of the girl that knows about my FB? If I escalate on some other girl, do I have to keep it secret, so so I don't run into problems of her asking what is between me and the FB? Or is it a good thing if that friend sees me with other girls as well?

Thanks for tips in advance!!

Are you sure that this girl knows she's just a fuck buddy? More importantly..why are you worried? She's just a fuck buddy. Those come and go.

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Nope, I'm not sure she knows it, but I'm avoiding everything that gives off a relationshippy vibe to get across the message /set expectations indirectly. I also told her, that I'm leaving the country in the wintersemester, I like traveling and going out a lot, meeting new people etc. Just stuff to disqualify me as a BF. And no cuddling after sex. Just so the FB stuff keeps going for a while, without her getting attached too much.

I'm just interested in how what I do in front of her friend will affect my standing with her and vice versa what the friend thinks if I keep fucking her but still hit on/do stuff with other girls. It's more a general interest, I know FB don't last forever.

If you consider this girl your fuck buddy, you do what you want because you aren't responsible for a fuck buddies feelings when it comes to other women. You didn't promise any exclusivity. The friend is going to let her know what's going on, but fuck buddies aren't serious. Just don't lie to her when she asks about other women.

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Don't gamble with her feelings. She may be thinking just you need some time before you step up the relationship. I think it's important to tell her what you really want. Whats wrong with being just honest.

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@Cross De Lena:
Yeah maybe it's better to actually do that. When and how is a good time to say that? Telling her "I like being single."? To me that sounds like I'm rejecting her.

Let the woman ask what kind of relationship it is.

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Yeah, that's exactly what I'm planning to do. So far she didn't bring up the topic. Only saw her two times after the ONS (one more tomorrow). If she brings it up, I wouldn't lie and just tell her I like being single and I'm not relationship material. But bringing it up myself feels super strange. Like I'm doing the stuff a woman is supposed to do. Is there a good way to tell her indirectly I don't want a relationship? Like without having "The Talk" initiated by me?

As I said I'm already avoiding any bf behavior, but it still doesn't feel like the perfect way to deal with this.

When she wants you to herself she will bring it up.

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