I feel like in on fire with my thoughts at the moment, and should share them. I mainly right for beginner as that's the level I'm still around. This analogy will some up chasing girls.

Depending on your situation one of two things can happen( or should I say 3)

Imagine your a donkey with a carrot on a stick in front of you.

When you chase a girl this is what happens

A) you will never get the girl because your constantly chasing and that distance will remain the same, NO MATTER how hard you try.( run if you want to, you'll never get the carrot)
B) you take steps back away form the carrot, what do you know, now the carrots chasing you.
C) the carrot was never really there in the first place just imagined( there was no chance of getting with girl, pretty similar to option a)

Guys fuck this up for other guys, imagine a place where guys didn't try has hard, i guarantee girls would be the ones to start chasing more than present.

It's really really simple, when a girl likes you, things will seem easy and effortless. She makes it this way. If she doesn't the opposite will be true. There is need to ask if a girl likes you. Simple question you need to ask yourself how much of herself is she giving to me. That's all you need to ask yourself as long as your not being silly with this question, you'll have all your answers

I should add fundamentally this is for beginners. As you progress with your social skills you can push a bi harder "chase" but as you get better you learn whether it worth your time. More advanced gamers can push through and create things. I've had times where I had to push and it just didn't feel
Worth it when I got what I wanted in the end.

You'll learn more about risk and reward as you get better. The risk of you coming off as needy which will blow everything up vs getting the girl. The subtle nuances but if you're new stick to my first post