Gentlemen,

6 weeks ago I ran into to a girl from my high school. That afternoon we had drinks. I escalated to express certain interest. This is something I have had trouble with in the past. I've been using words like "I like you and I want to see you again" instead of "Maybe we should hang out sometime". I've been getting positive responses, but I have also been known to go too far too quickly when I try to overcome my slow starts.

2 weeks later, I took her to a bar and went dancing. We were grinding hard and I kissed her for 1 second but she pulled away, but definitely was interested. Dropping her off, I moved in, but she said she had to wake up early.

I started to text too much and tried to pull back when I didn't get replies. About 2 weeks ago, she agreed to go out on a Thursday. She cancelled last minute. I later drunk texted and called "I want you"(I know, big mistake). The next day she told me not to do it again. Then invited me to out with her and her cousin that night, but the cousin was spending the night. I was less aggressive because of the text and we had a good time.

I've been trying to stay in contact, but not be needy. She never initiates. I feel like I'm 1 day away from her ripping my clothes off or blocking my number. How can I end this duality?

~ Blaque_Nite

You don't have to explicitly state you interest. I find it much more effective to simply escalate while you are qualifying and rewarding her. Good job at getting the kiss. You don't have to go into a heavy makeout to progress to sex. In fact, making out for too long can just give her validation and go against you. Set up time to see her and kiss at least once more before you pull her back to you place.

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With self control?

I happen to be a guy that likes affection from women, so back in the day I would be very impatient about the affection I wanted. I would be hugging my girls and/or placing their hands on my chest so they can rub it, without ever giving them much room to do it themselves. And what I've found is, a woman is in tune with what her man wants (once the relationship is established) and if I would be cool and resist the impulse to "take" affection in the moment, my girl would give it to me just moments after I resisted. And it is always that much more satisfying when it happens without you requesting it.

So to me it sounds like you're in this conundrum. You really like the girl and because of it you are emotionally polarizing rapidly. Control is what you want, and when you lose control you lose what you have.

Understand that emotions are just guides. They aren't necessarily what you should do. If you punched every person that you "felt" like punching because you was angry life could become challenging. And so, love is an emotion just as anger is an emotion. Let love get out of control and life could become challenging. Control the emotion. Respond to it only when its healthy to do so.

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