hey im looking for advice on how i could deal with shallow women. basically when i go to say hey to a women, using the techniques from books and rsd and from what i've seen on here about body language and how to approach, i get the women looking at me up and down and say "ew" or make some sort of screwed up face then try to insult me in some way buy saying something about my height. im 5 ft 3, or by my disability. i've had girls push and punch me out of the way when i just simply say hey to their friend. this happens usually in bars and clubs.

i try to brush these off but it does bring back my social anxiety.

is there any ways i could deal with these situations if they come up again?

Disability? What do you mean?

im partly deaf, and thats all, the rest of me is normal apart from my deafness.

you mean one ear deaf?

well one ear compleetly deaf and hearing aid in the other and i can talk lol

But girls don't know if you're partly deaf, unless you tell them.

true, i use it as an excusse for kino and bring them in close so i can talk to them then i explain that im partly deaf. then their friend runs in and pushed or punches me out the way and calls me all sorts

How about trying to be playful with that cockblocking girl? If she punches you, you should do the same to her.

when it happened to me i felt overwhelmed and shocked cos it was a good hard blow she gave me then draged her friend away. i felt it was because im not one of the good looking, skinny, muscley guys that they are looking for. or mayby im over thinking that last part. but i felt i couldn't do anything but walk away. maybe i should have called her up on it and stood up for myself more.

If you're half deaf, I'd focus on getting good at dancing. You don't need to hear in a club(people with perfect hearing can't even talk to each other much on the dance floor).

The only way I have ever seen short dudes get girls in a bar/club is by being a good dancer.

And you should be working on getting as "muscly" as possible. Being short, women already see your height as not masculine. You can bridge that with size.

Edit: Ok, this is not a normal reaction, even for a short guy. Are you dressed well?
You mention "skinny" guys. Are you overweight?
How is your skin? Acne, etc?

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i do try to dress as best as i can when im out and i am a stocky build and a little overweight. so far only women ive had are smaller than me and most are lesbians but they still gave me a good kiss at the end of the night. and thats been at rock clubs lol its only when i went to other clubs i got this problem lol

I am curious as to why short dudes can get girls only by being a good dancer in club, can you please elaborate? I am a 5'2" guy myself and started gaming since a month. My opens have been bad in club/dance floor and am still trying to find the clear reasons. Daytime and outside, opens have been pretty good with decent amount of number closing.

Hey Jim,

I'm terribly sorry to hear about your experiences. It's never easy and no one deserves to be treated that way.
There are a few things that you need to understand:

First, don't take responsibility. Most guys think wayyyy too much about a woman's reaction to them. A real man, who has his shit together, doesn't even think twice about what a little girl thinks of him. He has too many passions and hobbies in his life to worry about something that ridiculous. Now in your case, women reacting to you that way is not your fault at all. Some people are just rude, and some women have a ridiculous sense of entitlement. Personally, I've seen it in younger women generally, as the older ones begin to realize their looks won't carry them for the rest of their lives, but 18-21 year olds tend to be some of the nastiest, most irresponsible beings on earth - and they are usually worshiped for it. Don't get me wrong, I adore women, what I'm saying is that some people are just nasty and there's nothing you can do about it, so don't take responsibility, it isnt your fault.

Second, why bother dealing with shallow women? Seriously. Is that even the type of woman you want in your life? Essentially your question is 'how do I prove to these shallow women that I am good enough?' which is absolutely ridiculous. If a woman is rude to me, I won't even stay behind for the throwaway 'you're a bitch' answer or whatever. I stay completely silent, turn around and walk away. I don't have time to waste on people like that. All the women in my life are incredibly beautiful, kind and compassionate. Now, you're going to say 'well I want to learn to deal with them because they're hot and I want to fuck them'. Don't you see how that makes you just as shallow as them? You're willing to put up with being treated like shit just so you can maybe hopefully get a little. What are you communicating to these women? That you dont respect yourself. And if you dont respect yourself, no woman on earth will ever respect you.

Just something to think about.

to your success,
Mack

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Why are you making an effort to ignore the cute, caring women you connect with that make be interested in you for these shallow girls?

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Nothing shallow about wanting a physically attractive partner. If you want a hot girl, you should work on being as hot as possible. Can't very well demand she be hot, while you subside on a diet of double stack quesadillas and Mountain Dew.
The exact reason, I can't say for sure. I suspect a lot of it has to do with women not seeing most short guys as particularly masculine or sexy. But if you can dance, she can see you in a new sexual light.

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