Hi guys,

I've been a part of the community for a few years while having up and down periods of course. I have learnt a lot in the past years and it has benefited me in incomparable ways. The bottom line I've realized till now is this:
1. Figure out what success for you is (self realization)
2. Clearly imagine all steps of going from 'now' to 'success' in your mind (this could take some serious thinking and meditating but is the most important step)
3. Just go out and do it

Everyone knows that step 3. of just going out is the most important part. However to ramp up my going out to the next level is where I am having trouble. Here's what I usually do to go out.
a. Go to the bars with non-pick up friends (once a week)
b. Go to local singles meetups (once or twice a week)
c. Talk to people at the public places like grocery store, etc (twice a week)
d. Try to take friends interested in women but not into PUA to the bars (twice a month)
e. ... well basically that's it

I know once I put it out there it seems lame but the real problem is I am frankly out of fun ideas of going out. Also, I know there are a lot of mixed opinions about going out by yourself but I know its not exactly my thing as I'm almost never in state when completely alone at a bar/mall/etc.

Any and all ideas are welcome.

Peace.

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rambonot

What's the quality of your interactions like?

Are you just asking what the time is, for example and then moving on, or are you staying there and engaging with the person and polarizing them (being honest about your intentions that you're interested in them and want to get to know them better)?

its the latter. I go being honest about my intentions ( sometimes that being the first thing I tell usually in the bar scene). The issue is not the qualoity of interactions. I do get numbers and dates when I do get interactions. However, its getting more of the interactions which is the issue. Thats the part I've found hard to do, especially when I'm lone wolfing it.

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rambonot

Go out by yourself every night.

Nothing is anyones "thing", pick up wasn't your "thing" until you discovered it and began trying it out. So go out by yourself, push through the lack of being in state and the discomfort until it becomes your "thing". Once you become good at going out alone it will become your "thing", just as everything else you're good at becomes your "thing".

The easy way is going to take you a lot longer to get to where you want to be.

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Here's something I realized that makes it really easy for me; go out and do things that you without making picking up girls your intent.

Go to the local coffee shop to do work online, go to the mall to look at clothing or shop for something, walk around the park to get some fresh air/stretch/sun, go to a water park to have fun, go to a bar to drink, go to the climbing gym to rock climb, go to the gym to work out, etc.

If you meet someone well then great! If not oh well!

Man the way i see it, if you a hardworking man, striding for success in life, working on yourself, maybe even have a career you're passionate about, dreams, goals, and you are being healthy maybe even hittin the gym and being social in your regular life then you should have no excuses

You go out and you approach. No bullshit.

You want to get laid? Get laid. (disclaimer: Advanced game) begginer to intermediate should focus on mastering the basics and pushing for results until comfortable with the process.

You want a girlfriend? Get a girlfriend. (disclaimer: Advanced game)

Theres no "Bullshit" involved. Just approach alot of girls.

If you can't go out and approach the women you like on your own then you have internal issue you need to sort out.

The times i do my best i basically clear my mind, im probably on a role , doing well at work, hitting the gym, just being positive doin positive things in my life

and when i go out i make no excuse - approach and get results. (i been doing game for years so is automatic) But i believe if your a noob you can still have the same mindset and enstead of focusing on results you can focus on bettering your game and of course results will come one step at a time.

But i wouldn't sugarcoat my approach.

Thisss isss a maaaans world !!
-James brown

And remember approach anxiety is basically beaten through mental domination in life

I personally meditate twice a day for 20 mins, i find this helps me focus, is not needed for pick up but i encourage it because of the many benefits it has.

Also i feel that if your a begginer all you should focus on is approaching lol, you cant practice game if you cant approach, learn the mechanics of that first

I feel that what makes it hard for guys to approach is the idea of "Rejection"

The feeling of "I'm going to get rejected"

Guess what, YOU ARE.

Most girls WILL reject you, even at an advanced level. Some nights less than others. The diffrence between an advanced player and a noob is that an advanced player handles it like a boss, and keeps going until he wins.

You'll have nights when all girls are nice to you and you can fluidly game, and you'll have nights where everygirl will seem to be in her own world. None of it should matter because you should be holding your ground and just bringing forth positive fun vibes, she either takes it or leaves it.

But in the end with the right attitude and if you keep approaching and honing your skills, you will pull stunners.

And no, it doesn't happen in one day. Pick up is a lifestyle.

Own it.

The results will come, and boy do they feel good

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Thanks for the suggestion masterm1ne. Been doing wheat you suggested with some more stuff and it been working. I joined a crossfit. Went out to toastmasters clubs. Went to several singles meetups. Been chatting with 2 awesome girls I met. Went out for a date with a 9, day 2 is on. signed up for 2 triathlons. Got a promotion at work. Am going just going to be amping up what I've been doing.

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rambonot

Dude thanks for the detailed response. I'm going to be an asshole here and say that I delayed responding cos I thought this was a template response. I did see your video and your marketing material.

Thanks for the suggestions though. I've haven't been meditating regularly in the past couple of months and that had probably made me inner stage slip down a little. I'm going to get back to it seriously now.

Cheers

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I meditate often but theres times where i fall off too, thats fine, as long as you get back on track and handle your shit. I went through a rough patch recently and fell off HARD but then im realigning and adding meditation early in the mornings, pushing for consistancy.

Deep inside we know what the right thing to do is when we are aware, but no one is perfect.

As long as we stride for what we believe in , like zyzz says "Were all gona make it braaaaah" -R.I.P

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Omg I just got in from DC...

There is so much available pussy walking around there it's mind blowing. Just go outside and go somewhere lol