Hey guys, sorry for the long post. Im new to all this so please go easy. I know this isnt the usual post but would like some opinions, here goes.... I accidentally called my ex last week whilst in the gym ( with her for 5 months). wasn't expect to hear back, but she text me saying, you ok? xxxx and another one an hour later after I didn't reply saying, are you ok? do you miss me? xxxxx

I replied ( I no!! I shouldn't) . And she told me she missed me. It came out that I had been out on a date, only as friends though with another girl, we went to the restaurant me and my ex first went on our first date. she text me getting jealous, saying that's our place!!! then said I obviously couldn't of liked her if I moved on that quick. I told her we both know I liked her a lot and she's being stupid. ( she was the one who said she needed time and that I should see other girls) she said I know I told you to see other girls but I wasn't expect you too do so, so quick, it just sounds weird. then she said what does she look like, is she pretty, does she go to the gym, does she have a nice bum does she squat ( All the things I told her I like in a girl and things I liked about my ex) . I said to her she's a nice girl but we are only friends. She kept asking what does she look like. I said, why does it matter, what she looks like? we are only friends. That was the last text we exchanged, too which she hasn't replied.

However she has been commenting and liking my instagram pictures and facebook pictures and statuses. I also think she is posting stuff to get my attention and hope I will like it or comment, fitness stuff, things she never posts before. Im confused, what's going on here. I no I shouldn't, but i guess I want to understand her behaviour, I find it weird? Does she still like me or is she playing games to see if she still has a hold of me? ( If it matters she was the one who broke up with me saying she needs time to think. Never really felt like a proper brake up as she said we might miss eachother and get back together) This is why I am confused, I no WALK AWAY and im going to. I would just like your guys opinions on her behaviour

Thanks for reading

I won't talk about how you "accidentally" called her in the gym.

She's acting like lots of ex's do. She made an investment in you and when you moved on she's realizing what she's missing out on and some other girl is going to get it.

She's an ex for a reason and would end up an ex again. Don't go backwards.

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So you 'accidentally called her'

Then you 'accidentally' let it slip you'd been dating someone else?

Cause that's not transparent or anything... Very 5th grade of you.

Shaking my head... why go back to an ex? This is a pickup forum...

My phone was in my pocket whilst listening to music in the gym and I cant listen to it whilst its locked. shes first on my contact list as her name starts with A, and It called her whilst in my pocket. She asked if I was seeing anyone and I told her just as friends then she asked the rest. It was a genuine missed call.

She's definitely making her emotions available to be manipulated. Its fun for her and she clearly has nothing better going on at the moment, but I can't understand why you would want to deal with this?

The call seems a little farfetched, not the mention the whole " I'm at the restaurant in which we first met with another girl". It just so happened? Come on bro.. We've all seen loads of post with guys all doing the same thing. You don't have to hide from us, we've all probably done something similar at one time or another. Own who you are. No reason to lie, especially to a bunch of random guys on a forum. If theres any place you can be honest this is it. Phones don't even call the first person who's name starts with and A. You butt dial someone and its likely a speed dial mistake or one of your recent calls.

My conclusion: You started the game, she's just joined in. It'll burn out eventually; games always do.

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An ex of mine said the same. That is the one who'd say she needed time and I shouldn't hold off on dating other women because of her. Yet she'd get so insanely jealous about me hanging out with female friends I had known long before even meeting her, and would take umbrage with any girl who seemed even remotely interested in me. The line sub communicates "how invested is this guy?". A guy who is overly invested will become shaken by this thinking "doesn't she want me anymore?" whereas the guy who is minimally invested will think to himself "Ok, cool. I was just gonna do my thing anyway, this eliminates any awkwardness about my doing so".

Really though, the bottom line is her asking all these questions about you missing her etc is that they are ego-based, not love based as she wouldn't have treated you this way to begin with if she were so certain you were the one. So why go backward? Why invest with somebody who couldn't really appreciate what you had to offer back then simply because you have history together?

And ya, it sounds as though she's lonely and has nothing really much going on for her because if she did in all likelhiood you'd have received no response or something snarky in response to your text. So as the guy above said, why would you even want that? Go find somebody healthy who is worthy of your time, rather than toiling in the past with some girl who likely doesnt even know her head from her ass.