Long story short. Flirting with a girl at work on and off for a while, but resigned to not taking action because I didn't want to complicate things, but still flirt and chat, and went back to dating other girls. Closest friend at work basically tells me he slept with her, but it was way before I started working with them. She texts me saying she wanted to tell me, glad I found out, lets go for a drink and chat.

Go to the park with her on Friday, she talks about shit for an hour, and I just sit there in silence until she cracks. Starts dancing round the subject before I call her out on her shit. She confesses she really likes me etc. Make out a lot, try to get her back to mine, but she has bridesmaid dress shopping the next day, but texts me saying she wished she had come back to mine.

Text her on Sunday to make plans for this week, with the aim of her coming to mine and me cooking dinner, and then escalating to sex. Nightmare...she is going to Portugal for 5 days on Wednesday. But she suggests plans for tomorrow night (monday), and even reschedules her exam on Tuesday so she can do this.

My issue is, I live quite far out of central London, so I don't think I'm going to be able to get the lay on a weeknight. Is waiting for the third date, and making sure she is at mine for sex going to be moving too slow? I mean she seems quite invested in me, but I know that time is the enemy of seduction.

You can probably fuck her at any point at this time given the level of interest she has in you. Remember women want to be 'taken', but often go about it in very coy, and other non-direct ways so as to avoid feeling dirty. The fact she's declared her interest so readily is quite telling as to where she's at. Her oven's way past the point of preheat and is waiting for you to deliver the meat. Meet her in a park and bend her over the picnic table.

Anyway no its not too late as she's obviously quite interested in you in fact with somebody so polarized TOWARDS you you could probably go some time without making a move and still have sex, but why wait.

Leaving it to the 3rd date "too late"???...the question is even laughable.

There is no moving too slow if you're actually TRYING to get laid man. You're still escalating sexually. Guys that are moving to slow are the guys that aren't even making any attempts. This isn't your case and I truthfully can't even understand why this is a concern of yours.

Just chill man.

You don't want to be that overly eager dude either. That pretty much has stronger backlash than the guy who isn't even trying out at all.

She's coming over on today right? I think you're good.

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Eddie, you're always the voice of reason

I was thinking that tonight, don't try and invite her home (unless) in case she says no and then has said no twice, but set the date for dinner at mine next week?

Or should I still invite her back tonight anyway, just to continue trying to escalate? I think it was you Eddie who posted on here about how a woman will forgive a man for taking action, but won't forgive him for doing nothing

I'm trying to figure out why you feel it necessary to meet up with her anywhere outside of the home at this point? I barely take girls on dates anymore. Its a phone call or a SPAM/facetime call and then I'm inviting them over.

Definitely try to invite her back.. Why not?

Would you say " I'm not going to go for the kiss tonight just incase she rejects me. I'll play it cool tonight and then go for the kiss next week" ? Nah. Its just another form of escalation. You have to be wiling to walk way man. She'll come back if she thinks that you'll be willing to walk if she doesn't. If she feels like she can say "no" and still have a chance with you, why wouldn't she say no and get a couple more dates of out this deal before sleeping with you. Women are only going to do what you require.

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Not to hijack the thread or anything but I noticed you say that... I find girls that are very attractive in their photos can be quite the opposite in person. Not sure how you're comfortable inviting someone over without seeing them in person.

Maybe it's just me but I am very particular about a females body and if there is something wrong (i.e. waist too big) it's enough to kill any attraction I had and I won't be motivated to have sex.

Photos? Are we talking about online dating in this thread?

But if online dating were the case, I'd much rather find out in the comfort of my own home in my PJ's then to get all dressed up to meet a girl outside to find out.

Its either me getting up and walking way, or sending them home. One just involves a lot less effort.

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My bad, I assumed it was online. Most of the girls I've been with or dated came from online.

Haven't needed cold approach in a while...

Not talking about online dating.

Important caveat is that tonight is our first formal date, but I'm counting last Friday as more or less a date, so tonight is our second date.

I don't think she will come back to mine tonight because of distance from London and we have work tomorrow, so my question was more about setting the third date at mine after she gets back from Portugal, with the implicit assumption that were going to fuck

EDIT: plan was to get her round to mine for me to cook her dinner on a Friday night...then work isn't a problem

On average, it takes 3 dates to have sex with a girl. There's nothing at all wrong with doing it on the third date.

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Are you fundamentally opposed to banging her at her place? Because that's probably an option, you know.