Girl P: I was with my friends at a hotel's beach last Friday and it was generally quiet. We noticed this woman in her mid-thirties by herself laying on the same line of beds around 30 mtrs away from us. Nice body and cute face, I would say a 6.5 – 7. As my friends were leaving a bit early, they encouraged me to approach her immediately without overthinking it and so I started walking towards her at the same time. I said something like “Hey, I was sitting with my friends right there at the shade and since they are leaving I thought I would like to come with you over here at the sun” and immediately “what’s your name”.. “where are you from?” ..As it turned out she is from a European country and living at the hotel’s staff accommodation.

She asked where I am from and when I told her, she replied in my language. She speaks relatively well my language since she is fascinated by it, has a few friends who she visits often. We chatted for around half an hour, mainly in English, with her doing 70% of the talking and me guiding the conversation with the 30%. Then she had to go, she asked me if I am usually hanging out there / we ‘ll meet again around kind of statement and I told her to exchange numbers.

I texted her the night after, she replied the next morning. “sorry I was asleep. Just woke up. Really tired etc.” Chatted a bit and then I asked her:

Me: “when are you free in the coming days? We could get a drink (juice)”
(Side note: Inside joke because all the bars serving alcohol are closing for a month during Ramadan. I know, it sucks I am approaching 30 and considering leaving the middle east or at least moving to Dubai, since available females are quite limited and there a bunch of guys).
Her: “I have a very strange schedule during Ramadan” “ I work till 9pm”
ME: “I took my measures and kept some alcohol reserves of course lol”
Her ”Because of their fast.” “ I don’t drink alcohol”
Me: Yeah Ramadan changes everything
Her: It sure did for me
“Etc. etc.” (She said she is back home around 10pm. Meeting on a weekday is not a good option for me since she lives 30 mins drive away from me on the other part of the city.)
Me: “ Ok I m free Tuesday and probably Thursday( weekend night)
“ Tuesday is weekday though. So if you are free on Thursday that would work”
Her “ hmmm “ , “ok”
Me: Cool. Have a nice day at work.

Now that was not a solid response but tending more to I 'll let you know" thing.

Late night yesterday I sent a funny picture that goes like this:

“I was offered sex today by a 26 year old woman. In exchange of that I was supposed to advertise some kind of bathroom cleaner on my facebook. Of course I declined because of my moral and strong willpower. Which is just as strong as Ajox. The super strong bathroom cleaner. Now available scented with lemon or vanilla”

She did not reply to it. I do not know her present relationship situation but I have an impression she might be having something complicated abroad or coming out of it. However it doesn’t matter. If a man interests a woman and creates an attraction she will want to meet him most of the times. I might not have made enough connection. So should I text again today with some casual/ funny chat and then reconfirming about meeting on Thursday night?

I think now is a great time to pull back.

Give it a week and she'll likely come around on her own.

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I 'll take your advice and hold back and go to plan B meeting my friend, since I have seen time after time that pushing and leaning in usually bring the opposite results. I have also pulled back from the tinder girl for the last 10-11 days but after I have pushed quite a bit and I believe that's why she didn't initiate any contact. (different story, different post).

By the way, as an appreciation for the contribution and advice you are offering to everyone in the community, I have downloaded your ebook.

Something else to correct: The vimeo video on your signature has no sound. The same video on youtube has very low volume and a lot of white noise, which I believe is a result of a low volume recording (far away?) and then this was boosted later on when editing.

Perhaps you should reload it. The vimeo video definitely has sound. Not much I can do about the white noise at this point, headphones help.

I wrote an article titled "Act Like A Man, Think Like A Woman" in the PUA lounge section. I'd check it out. Its completely relatable to both this post and the tinder girl. viewtopic.php?f=25&t=190620

And thanks for your contribution. Let me know what you think when you're done.

Peace bro.

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[quote="Eddie Fews
Perhaps you should reload it. The vimeo video definitely has sound. Not much I can do about the white noise at this point, headphones help.

I wrote an article titled "Act Like A Man, Think Like A Woman" in the PUA lounge section. I'd check it out. Its completely relatable to both this post and the tinder girl. viewtopic.php?f=25&t=190620

And thanks for your contribution. Let me know what you think when you're done.

Peace bro.[/quote]

I had read this article last week already The part about letting women go because they are not up to your standards. I can say that I did that with four girls I had gone out with (average looking, nothing exceptional): 2 dates the first and 1 date the rest because I couldn't feel emotional attraction or connection and it is a lot of effort to be meeting someone who is not up to my standards considering the logistics and my available free time. They have all texted me on separate occasions in the last few months and I am always friendly but indifferent.

I will continue to improve and make changes to my frame of mind and thoughts and see where it leads me to.

Letting go is about making sacrifices. If its "Easy" it probably isn't going to yield much results. The letting go thats "hard", that letting go that has potential to make you emotional will yield results equivalent to the intensity of the emotion you feel toward what you're letting go.

Anyone can let go of average girls. Thats easy. Walk away from the ones that rarely come around and you'll find that they no longer "rarely" come around. They'll be in your life in abundance.

Sacrifices have to pang you a bit.

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Showing too much investment in her with all the text like you're trying to win her approval. Women have strong neediness detectors. Back up a bit, wait a few days to a week and then open her with something short. If she doesn't respond just leave it be.

Update:

Today afternoon I went at the same beach as last week. My friend who was already there told me that she thought she saw her. After having a soft drink with the friends by the pool we walked to go to our sunbeds and saw her further away standing and talking on the phone. We went to our place and I waited for few minutes for her to finish her phone call so that she would be available and to be able to have her full attention. After she finished I approached her and she recognised me, smiled and gave a hug and cheek to cheek kiss.

She told me she just got a phone call from work and is expected to travel out of the country in a couple of days and go to France for a couple of weeks. I felt at the beginning I did not have her full attention and she excused her self because she was sending some message related to this and said that had to leave in a short while to meet her friend.

She suggested to go further down towards the sea to get some sun to dry up, so she grabbed a couple of towels for us and we laid them down on the sand. I asked her what she is up to in the coming days, this evening she told me she is meeting one of her good friends (female) for a farewell and the whole background story and the next couple of days will prepare for the trip.

At a certain point she asked me about my age (I expected she is 5-6 years older than me). I replied how old do you think I am? she said 27 ,28, I said close, but I am approaching 30.. And I totally mechanically asked "How about you?" and she replied straight away "36".. (as I was expecting), "but I look younger". I wasn't sure why she said that, Was it that she was trying to qualify herself? At the time I was thinking to my self that I should be saying in a playful way like "I know that I shouldn't be asking a woman's age :p".

I followed up about the age thing in a philosophical way saying that while growing up we might act a little more mature, we always feel young in our minds but occasionally we have our body reminding us "hey you are not a teenager anymore".

Saw some people playing beach rackets and mentioned that we were discussing about this last week and we should be also brining some rackets from abroad. She said that when she saw earlier on the people playing she remembered me. The whole interaction lasted around 15-20 minutes and told her goodbye, have a good journey etc. Didn't mention anything like see you soon etc. I 'll follow up with SPAM after 3-4 days to see if she is abroad..

Observations: (some subtle analysis, at the end of the day I don't know how much these really matter)

1) One of the things I noticed was that she doesn't make much eye contact, neither of the two times that we have met because she is usually not facing me while talking. During the first time I was trying to look at her while talking and was surprised about this, found it awkward and needy for me looking at her while she is talking and looking at the sea for example. This time I realised that this is probably her thing not looking much at the direction of the other person when talking, and I probably didn't worry or thought about it much and I subconsciously mirrored the same behaviour during this interaction.

2) Body language: First she laid down flat on the stomach and I was sitting cross legged. After a while I laid down too for some time. Then I turned around completely laying on the back and she followed the same immediately.

3) As a feedback to myself I must say that I was not very confident. Had the feeling that you are not out there 100% in the moment but a bit reserved into your self. Need better body language while standing and found my self instantly correcting bad habits like putting hands inside pockets while talking standing. I can recognize the bad habits but need to establish good habits in order to eliminate the bad ones. As a practice I will need to bring myself to more situations out of my comfort zone.