I have a very good friend I am atracted to.

She frequently opens up to me sharing her fears, asking for my opinion and sharing some very intimate stuff. To be honest, I like that sensation of connection. And I believe girls love that kind of stuff.

The thing is, I usually keep everything bottled up, acting tough and distant. And keeping that textbook cocky and funny facade. But since we have all that confort, what would be the predictable result of equally opening up and sharing my problems? And how do I do it without being a wuss?

And with other girls in general? When is it the time to show my weaker side (yes, because we all have one. don't deny it).

Turn off the cocky funny once she is investing in you.

You can respond back with slightly less than hear in terms of what you want to share. These are subjective "emo units" if you will. Meaning, if she tells you a story about her that's worth 5 points on the emo scale, you can tell her an emotionally revealing story about you worth 4 points or less.

Stories should not be about you being a victim unless it's how you overcame adversity in the end. Victim stories tend to lead girls into becoming your psychologist which fucks up the relationship.

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Chris
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As soon as you "open" you are "opening up".... think about it.

What is it you feel you will accomplish by "opening up" to her? What do you expect that to do? Will it cause her to drop everything and jump on you? What is the result that you want?

You're not a "friend" because you haven't opened up in the manner you're expressing. You're a friend because you have yet to show your interest in her. Neither through touch, or verbally. You've yet to take a risk to take her and your interaction to the next level.

I'm guessing what you want is the girl more so than some way to confide in her.

If you want to open up about something, how about your start with opening up about your level of interest in her both romantically and sexually. I think thats a good place to start. You can save all the mushy stuff for now. Thats what your boys are for. A woman is looking for a man she can confide in; not someone that wants to confide in her. The men that do that slowly, but surely wither away their attractiveness.

You want the girl? You'll have to take a risk. It won't be comfortable; especially since it sounds like you're already rooted in your role as a friend, but It must be done. Theres no short cuts, theres no way around this, and no way to make yourself more comfortable with the action. The guys that let their fear get the best of them are forever friends, the guys that fight their fear get the women.

Bravery and courage will get you the girls you want time and time again.

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