So I'm back posting here and it's been awhile. I took 6 months away from dating after having no success. And to be honest I've never been successful at dating. I still have never picked up a girl at a bar or in person due to an overwhelming amount of insecurities I've developed over my life. From being bullied all of grade school to my own mother telling me to take what I could get. Building self-esteem has always been hard. But lately my inner game has been my focus. If I could make myself better if stand a better chance with the opposite sex. I've been focusing on what Style said about tribes in "The Game". I've never really fit in with anyone group. I was never "bro" enough for my dirt bike racing friends cause I don't drive a blacked out truck or am covered in tat's. I was never Christian or a leader in my Church so the Christian girls would always pass on me. I was never rich enough for the country club girls where I used to play college golf. I could go on but dirt bikes golf and going to the lake are where I live and I was never enough in one group for the girls to like me. And I've tried country bars and dance halls and I'm not redneck enough being born and raised in Los Angeles, CA. I've spent my life trying to fit in and I can't do it anymore. At 26 I have to be me and if it means a life alone then that's what I guess I can get a dog haha. This may not be the right place to post but I didn't see anywhere else. Any help or advice is appreciated.

realize you dont need to fit in, you should be your own man, with your own quirks and traits. Once you develop that, you will begin to find like-minded people whom you can hangout with and go out with.

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I partially understand where you're coming from, but I'm not entirely sure that you do. The problem with your inner game isn't the fact that you don't fit in. The problem is that you worry about fitting in. Not saying that fitting in isn't important, but usually that is an appearance type of thing. Your appearance is fully in your control.

I'm willing to bet if you "looked the part" you'd probably still feel the same way. That's because you are scared to let people see exactly who you are because you don't want to be rejected. You have to get comfortable in your own skin and realize that if a woman or anyone rejected you because of who you are as a person, those aren't the people that you would want around you anyways.

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Do you come her to cry, whine, and complain about how difficult your life is or did you come for help?

When you say you tried for 6 months, what exactly did you do? Were you out there approaching 10-15 women 4 days a week for 6 months? How much effort did you actually give this?

If i did one push up a day for 6 months, i wouldn't go to a body building forum and talk about how hard working out is, and how i've tried it for 6 months and still saw no results. Saying "so i guess i am going to just be a fat slob for life because this shit is too hard".. Does that sound like a loser to you? It most certainly does to me. And that attitude would reflect why you probably weren't considered for a leadership position. And/or why you may have no been embraced by your peers.

The people that "try" to fit stand out the most(in a negative way), because they are the least authentic and the least genuine. It is the people who "aren't trying to be cool" that are the most cool. They aren't looking for anyones approval, and because of this people are looking for theirs.

You're mind F-wording yourself and coming to forums to complain about your situation isn't going to help. Had you came here and said " Hey whats up guys! I tried this for six months and it didn't work out. What is it that I have to do to be successful at this? " you would of gotten the types of answers that will be of a greater use to you. That is also the attitude of someone who is going to elevate in this field or any field one way or another. Their mind is asking questions about success, not questions about why they failed. Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your character, and your character becomes your destiny. You want to be successful you have to begin to think success. Crying, whining, complaining, and breaking down your misfortunes to others further spirals you down mentally into the position you're trying to get yourself out of. If you want to come "up" you have to center your mind on being "up". Wipe the tears and begin figuring out and inquiring about all you can do to be successful.

What are you willing to sacrifice for this? What have you sacrificed? You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to become great at something.

So what you can do now is answer the questions and I'll point you into the right direction.

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U dont try to fit in.. n for me not fitting in society is perfectly fine.. most of the people go with the flow.. they dont really have their own choices.. personally my beliefs r very different frm others n i always had (still have) issues on making groups wid other people.. in fact i still dont have any..but thts ok for me.. coz i got few people in my life but those who truely care for me n i knw i live life according to my own beliefs n not to FIT IN. so u need to find wat u believe in n b ok wid it 1st without trying to fit in.
As a last note, if u want to achieve somethmg great im life u need to b different than the others.. n being different itself means not fitting in. think abt it.

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