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PostPosted: Sat Jun 06, 2015 6:07 am 
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How do you get a girl to qualify herself or to earn the right to be hit on?

(seriously, I know I'm making a lot of posts, but you can see that they're relevant and of different topics that you could see why I can't condense them into one post, right?.... am I really going to be kicked off for this? I'm obviously trying to learn...)


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PostPosted: Thu Jun 11, 2015 7:55 am 
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It's all about breaking rapport. Throw friction into the interaction, so she wants to qualify to you.

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 11, 2015 1:41 pm 
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It's all about breaking rapport. Throw friction into the interaction, so she wants to qualify to you.
I have a problem with building rapport in the first place... it usually comes across as... "why is this guy even talking to me?"....

But I actually did this unintentionally with a bartender at Hooters.... she talked about how she watched television when she was at home.... then I said "how much television do you watch in a week?... and she started going, ""well my life doesn't actually revolve around watching television, I like to go outside, too..."....


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What you're not realizing is that all of your questionings are stemming from the same thing.

You can't get someone to qualify themselves to you if you aren't first of a higher quality than they are. You're inner game isn't where you want it to be and as a result you're struggling in all areas related to game.

If you knew how to project the same false bravado you projected when you first signed up on the forums in real life I don't think you would have much of a problem. You don't know your value, you don't have a firm understanding of your standards, boundaries, and you aren't holding the people in your life to your standards and boundaries.

All of your many questions are the same. Your problem doesn't lay within "techniques" it lays within your own head, and what you're projecting frame wise based on your way of thinking. You really don't have to post as much as you do, what you need to do is develop your mindset into one thats a lot more attractive. And just like developing "6 pack abs", developing mental "6 pack abs" is going to take months of discipline, exercise and dedication.

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What you're not realizing is that all of your questionings are stemming from the same thing.

You can't get someone to qualify themselves to you if you aren't first of a higher quality than they are. You're inner game isn't where you want it to be and as a result you're struggling in all areas related to game.

If you knew how to project the same false bravado you projected when you first signed up on the forums in real life I don't think you would have much of a problem. You don't know your value, you don't have a firm understanding of your standards, boundaries, and you aren't holding the people in your life to your standards and boundaries.

All of your many questions are the same. Your problem doesn't lay within "techniques" it lays within your own head, and what you're projecting frame wise based on your way of thinking. You really don't have to post as much as you do, what you need to do is develop your mindset into one thats a lot more attractive. And just like developing "6 pack abs", developing mental "6 pack abs" is going to take months of discipline, exercise and dedication.
Okay. I get that it won't happen overnight, but could you point me in the right direction?

What should I be worth? What should my worth be? I often have the problem of thinking "what do I actually have to offer this girl?" and not being able to come up with a good answer.

I am not sure what my value is. Is it possible that I have none? How could that be the case? Why do other guys have more value than me?

I could learn to project that false bravado... but make it real this time. How can I do this?


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Eddie is spot on


How many girls have you honestly approached this week? Let's start with that

I get the feeling you're trying to Learn every single possible scenario that there could be which is called procrastinating

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 11, 2015 4:08 pm 
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Eddie is spot on


How many girls have you honestly approached this week? Let's start with that

I get the feeling you're trying to Learn every single possible scenario that there could be which is called procrastinating
This week...

Maybe 6.

I feel like I reduced my approach anxiety by about 1000% this week.

I have trouble getting past the surface conversation and making it deeper (or maybe I'm over thinking this, does such a thing even exist)... and I should probably go for the number close while I can.

PS: I'll teach you business if you teach me personality, now that you see I'm not a troll. I messaged you about it.


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I feel like I reduced my approach anxiety by about 1000% this week.
Are you reducing your approach anxiety or are you approaching and expecting to fail to make a connection? Those are two entirely different things.

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I feel like I reduced my approach anxiety by about 1000% this week.
Are you reducing your approach anxiety or are you approaching and expecting to fail to make a connection? Those are two entirely different things.
No. Reducing anxiety. Not intending to make a fool of myself.


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