Been seeing this chick (19) for more than a month casually (she started things between us), we've both registered that we're not a couple but its clear we're more than just friends and I'm quite sure she isn't seeing anyone else.

Without fail she will call me EVERY day at some point, chat and ask me what i'm up to, which i use to my advantage to set up dates (she has never flaked/said no outright without conceding a different day to go out).

Whenever we go out for drinks/dinner we cuddle/kiss and have a good time and are very comfortable around each other (IE no awkwardness ever).

My sticking point is that we haven't had sex yet. She's said she doesn't have sex with anyone she doesn't "love" while we were on the topic once. She's had a few partners though all of them are ex's (no one nighters). though I haven't pushed for it yet, intuition tells me that it's going to be a challenge to get her into bed.

There's always the scenario that she's simply doesn't want it from me and just wants to date for attention but for arguments sake lets pretend that's not the case.

My question is how would you progress with a girl who has definitely invested something in you, but is taking things slowly and hasn't fully committed to you?

I feel i know the answer to my question is going to be a simple "Just go for it" response, which is probably true, but I'm more so looking for advice on: at what point would you make your move and how would you push for it without coming off as desperate/sleazy.

What I would do is try for it and as she rejects me, I would sulk and ask her 'Don't you find me attractive?? ' and make a big deal of it lol

In all seriousness, it's not even a casual relationship, or even a relationship for that matter till you boink her...

Have you even made out with her?

Personally, I would give her 2/3 more tries. If she still doesn't put out I would cut down the time with her and even chase other girls. Perhaps that might make her realise that you're not looking for a pen pal

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Whats the furtherest your'e gotten?

And just be aware that the rapid amount of one nighters isn't something that was happening as often as it is happening today. Most women of old were taught to get a bit more investment from guys before handing the panties over. Of course there were your players that could pull it off, but it was no where near as common as it is now.

I remembered my dad saying that back in his day if he heard that a girl slept with a guy in shorter than a month, he would never take her serious as a candidate for a relationship. He was what she called "A hoe". And all of his buddies shared in the same belief. My dad had plenty of one nighters, but never once did he take them serious according to what I was taught. He told me to do the same growing up, but we're living in a different world so I partially disregard it. I'd never had a girl make me wait anywhere near a month, but part of me hopes i come across a chick strong enough to make me wait, while keeping my attention and not giving me sex. I've had everything else. A change would be interesting..

So you may not have a problem on your hands.. If a girls a virgin would you freak if she didn't bang you in the first 3 night? Probably not. She's a virgin and trying to save herself for the most "persuasive" person. Which in her mind is the "right" guy.

I had a girl that didn't even kiss me until the 5th night. I went for the kiss a ton of times. She even slept in my bed and didn't kiss me.

Just keep that in mind. The speed at which she sleeps with you can give you some insight on the speed it would take her to sleep with someone else.

So the complete answer depends on.. How far you too have gotten.. & What attempts toward escalation have you made. You can't inquiry about a girl that hasn't slept with you if you didn't try yet.

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Farthest i've gotten is hooking up for around 15 minutes at a time whilst out drinking with her, twice. other than that we have dinner mostly and then go to a cafe or cuddle at the bus stop before splitting.

My own thoughts are that maybe she's still on the fence about whether she likes me or just doesn't want to commit to anything quickly.

What about a date at your home for 'netflix' instead of the bus stop? - just throwing that out there

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So many ways to approach this. Here's a subtle test whether she's horny for you:

You: I have a problem. I'm rushing several case studies (or whatever) and I haven't cleaned my apartment in a week. My landlord is going to inspect my place tomorrow to see if I've been keeping my end of the lease/rent agreement. Can you help me? I have a deadline to meet tomorrow morning...

Her: Okay.

Women who are horny for you will do nice things for you. The hornier they are for you, the greater is their effort to help you out.

So when she shows up in your apartment, it's time for you to escalate. Women just need a plausible reason so they won't look like a slut when they show up in your apartment. Be aware of the very subtle hints (like doing nice things for you) then go for it.

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