| Long read, but i need help.
Hey guys. I've been out the game for a while and, trying to get back in, I've developed a lot of rust. I could use your help.
Is she attracted to me or isn't she?
I see this chick every now and then at my best friend's parties or family functions, (she's the niece of my best friend's wife, i just turned 30, she's 19). She lived at my best friend's home at the end of last year and was wildly into me. We'd fb inbox eachother all the time and call eachother babe, love, etc. Thing is, she chose to conceal it in front of her family because they would think I was too old for her and give her sh*t. She was right. I let it be known to my best friend and his wife cause I'm a grown ass man & I don't hide from no one, and they got on her for it. Lbs! First like, "stay away from him," etc, then eventually started playfully teasing her about me. Problem: the teenage daughter (her cousin) started calling her negative names (thirsty, etc) and started making her feel bad for liking me.
Realizing it wasn't going anywhere because she was scared to openly express herself in front of her fam, I left her alone with the intent to re-game later.
She moved out, I had deleted my fb, and we didn't talk for months. So I've been seeing her every now and then at her family functions and she acts super nervous around me. She can't sit still & runs off to a different room whenever I'm around. When I actually greet her with a hi and smile eyes, she stares me straight in the eyes, gives them back, smiles, and will walk over to initiate a hug. When she gets close though, she looks away becomes rushed and tries to run off to another room again without making eye contact. Even when i talk to her while hugging her she'll respond while trying to run away.
I was leaving her mom's house the other day with my friend (mom's bday) and we walked past her room to leave. She laid on her bed and waved bye to my friend as he walked by the hall, I decided to stop and gave her a compliance test. She was texting someone on the bed, I motioned for her to come across the room to me to say bye to me, she locked eyes with me stopped texting immediately, came over to me postured up with a bedroom eyes smirk, walked over gazing into my eyes, and stood right in front of me with her arms down. Problem: when she got in kino range though, her cock blocking cousin (lil beetch. Lol. Jk.) walks up behind me, and HB wouldn't make eye contact with me no more! She stood there nervously. I smiled at her and put my arms around her trying to ease her (now she was blocked by the doorway from running off over my shoulder) so I told her it was good seeing her, baiting her to say it back... with her cousin there, she didn't. :/ She just kept facing her cousin nervously not speaking. I told her i wanted her to have a good night, and asked her "okay?" and she responded nervously by nodding her head without verbalizing still not making eye contact. Her cousin standing there behind me looking at her the whole time.
I don't know what to make of it. Saw her at a baseball game yesterday, her whole fam was there, more of the same. I locked myself back against the fence after greeting the fellas with handshakes, hand pounds, and man hugs, lol, and greeting the women (her family) with hugs and kisses. I posted up against the fence surrounded by the women in her family. I didn't notice her at first. She was standing two ppl away from me. She did the nervous moving away thing. Walked by me one way, then came back around talking to everyone around me in passing except me (lol) so I said, "Oh hey. Wuddup HB-name." She physically stops in walk path, looks me straight in the eyes, she got the squinty corners, locks em in mine, smiles, says hi back, sustains eye contact with the smirk, waits for passer by to walk through us sustaining eye contact throughout, changes direction to come hug me (she initiated, my hands were at my side the whole time being alpha), and again as she gets close, she can't make eye contact with me. I asked her if she changed her hair color while i embraced her, she responded verbally, i told her it looks nice, she said thank you in a normal pace, but she couldn't make eye contact with me in close and, again, nervously rushes off over my shoulder.
I can't read her man.
Her approaches, her eyes, her smile, her vocal tonality from afar says SHE DOES, then in close she acts nervous and that conveys discomfort there, telling me SHE DOESN'T.
Help me, fellas.
Is she attracted or isn't she?
Either way, what is the right way to go about cleaning up her in-close reaction and directing her into expressing attraction there again?
I can't kiss her, or ask for her number to date her if she keeps running off. :/
If I grab her hand and walk off to isolate her, she might show MAJOR resistance in front of her fam for fear of the backlash, deading off all attraction. However, this "seeing eachother and not escalating" will also dead it eventually if this continues.
Not going back to fb, cause eff that, I want her in real life, not online, plus it's easy to flake on there. I want to move forward with her, not backwards. Feel me?
So yeah, I want this fixed the next time I see her. What do I do, brothers? Help would be appreciated.
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