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I'm really struggling with some of these concepts. Read some stickies but a few things don't make sense to me.
I have a friend that's been dating a girl for about 5 months. We all work together in the same office. They talk and have been talking on pretty much a daily basis even since before they started dating. I mean via text btw, social media or the application we use at the office. And that worked for him. Yet I don't understand how going harder for girls used to having guys at the ready 24/7 can work in your favor. She wants the guy who's different right? Then again he's game is pretty decent so maybe it's a matter of quality even if it comes in quantity?
At the same time I'm also dating a coworker for about a month or so. However I took the scarcely road. Only talk to her once every 2-3 days. We otherwise have plenty of contact though since we work together and also go to the same gym and whatnot.
So how do you form a stronger connection with a girl if most of your texts consist of light, fun and concise messages?
Concepts? If you talk excessively you'll seem clingy, if you talk scarcely you'll seem to be distancing yourself and being cold for no reason which can't be all that attractive. How to find out what's the right measure? The right measure is what is consistent, what she would expect of you instead of the random parameters you try to hold up to. Can't you try to figure out what she is expecting of you after a month of getting to know her? Couldn't you guess what would be socially expected anyway from a girl you just got acquainted with?
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