What you're talking about is a very common, deeply ingrained mindset that we've been conditioned to feel.
You don't want to bother anyone. You don't want to take up their time. You don't want to TAKE sex from women without paying for it in some way like through marriage or literal payment.
These mindsets are fundamentally flawed and that's what inner game is all about - fixing these flawed mentalities.
Take the last one I mentioned, for example: you don't want to TAKE sex from women. Sex is something that women GIVE to men. Well, that is bullshit and it's easy to know and understand logically; women enjoy sex, too, and, in fact, evidently enjoy it a hell of a lot more than men do (who makes louder noises of pleasure in bed?).
Even if we are confronted with logic, we still feel that having sex with women is wrong because of years and years of social conditioning. We're pretty much brainwashed into suppressing our sexual selves.
The whole process of shedding all this negative conditioning is a pretty long and time-consuming one, but that's what the pickup community is here for. Try to look at the world from a different perspective
