I'm getting a cut tomorrow and going around the mall just for small conversation, until I read more and maybe get more money and better shoes and make some friends. how long should I do these little confidence booster small talk exercises? Should I just start opening and going for real PU? Theres no where to do night game around here and night game typically costs money, clubs and bars, no public transportation after a certain time.

These mall "missions" are meant to get you used to get out of your confort zone and talk to people, so when you think you are at ease with talking to strangers you can stop and go further.
One thing, remember you don't need a lot of money to get a girl if you are good. PU is meant to be affordable for everyone. This said, if you can pay for the taxi back from a night club it would be great.

I suggest you start finding some friends (remember, not only males!) and a new style of clothing (if you don't feel confortable in what you are wearing right now) while you do these missions.

If you can't do night game, then do day game!

Kinda wondering how small your town is if it doesn't have bars and clubs.
I really don't suggest cold approach in a small town - at all.

In a small town(let's say 10,000), there may be less than 200 hot girls. You're gonna burn through that awfully fast, and have a reputation around town as the weird dude who macks on every chick he sees(unsuccessfully).

You should be looking to meet these women in a normal social context. Like at a church or volunteering or something. Switch up where you go often, but don't do cold approach in a small town. Save that for after you move.

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100,000 people, (Suburbs of Chicago about 1hr from downtown)

Dude, that's fine. I am from a city of 80,000 people and had no problems doing cold approaches.

But... Are you sure you don't have bars/clubs there? I mean, I had those!

There may not be a lot of clubs(or any) in 100,000, honestly. But no bars? That, I can't imagine.

Anyway, the point of the new mission is just to make it less scary to talk to strangers. Most people aren't used to doing it at all. Go hit on girls first thing you're comfortable enough to actually do it.
But if you find yourself chikening out, then keep doing random chat ups with everyone until you can.

Shoes have basically no bearing on this. At all. Grooming and your looks overall, of course, matter a great deal.

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My advice for noobs:

DONT LISTEN TO ANYONE. EVERYTHING in the COMMUNITY is a MARKETING SCHEME that will CONFUSE YOU and leave you crying wondering why you cant pick up girls like the masters.

The reality is that the masters are not as good as you think they are, yet they keep you hooked looking for the magic pill or the next product for you to buy.

Follow your instincts.

Heres how you really get girls:

COMMON SENSE

You become cool.
You don't do creepy shit.
You MUST approach?? Obviously?
If you approach 100 girls 1 will like you.

Understand not every girl is available.

How do you handle 99 rejections in a row and still think theres hope?

HAVE A FUCKING LIFE NOOBS !

WHO CARESSSS!!! life isnt all about girls.

*NEWSFLASH* You typically live till your 80yrs old on average.

If you build a wonderful life for yourself, you hit the gym, you stay healthy, you are positive, you make enough money to sustain yourself, you have a good outlook on life, and you approach women consistantly throughout your life without really INVESTING ALL YOUR LIFE. Dont you think you will get laid and get a sexy girlfriend of your choice?

Go home kids. the show is over.

I wish someone would have told me this when i was a noob.
But if that would have happened i wouldn't be here helping others

Things to keep in mind for noobies and skills that you need :

SOCIAL SKILLS - Achieved through lots of social interactions
FLIRTING - How to FLIRT WITH GIRLS
LEADING - How to get her phone number and have her do things you want
CLOSING - same shit.

As a noob i would tell you to focus on having a nice style/be clean, blend into whatever environment you are in and exceed.

Approach and talk to single girls(make sure they are single) - try getting their number - working on your conversation and number closing skills, practice building connections with girls then practice flirting so you dont end in the friendzone. Then take them on dates. Practice surviving dates. Then dates eventually lead to sex if you know how to flirt and lead. Then sex turn into relationships. Game over.

Questions?

Yes is that simple.

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So --- don't listen to ANYONE!

..... But listen to dtrak... Who conveniently offers coaching!

This isn't the first time I've seen coaches or members who teach on this forum tearing down other members and saying - in general terms - "no one knows anything, except me!" Just before offering their sage advice.

Not all of them. Some.

So OP.. take that post with a grain of salt.

Sorry dtrak - nothing personal... I actually think you make many good posts here... But c'mon. You can't say don't listen to anyone; everyone sucks; and then give the dude advice.

I didnt say everyone sucks. But i admit i was a bit irrational. lol. read between the lines?

To clarify , my point seemed a bit clouded by my emotions - what i ment to say is that due to the OVERHYPE of The Pick Up Artist market - there is so much stuff out there and so many ways to do things which of course is clearly marketing to get money - i understand guys gota make a living , and there are good products out there , not going to deny that.

My point being - dont let all the stuff thats out there distract you from the fact that Picking up Women is extremely simple if you understand the reality of it.

And then i ellaborated why in the rest of my post.

This wasnt a shot at anyone in this forum in particular, this was more of a dicerning of the community as a whole.

There are good products out there, but in my opinion very few.

Either way, you can tell who's real and who's not. The proof is in the pudding, specially with technology now adays.

But as someone who's been in this community for years i can give my opinion.

And yes, i coach, is a hobby, i feel guys can use the help.

But theres a diffrence between helping and furthering confusion.

What i will tell guys is, put in your hard work, and use common sense.

And just because i say is simple, doesnt mean it can be done from one day to the next, being social is a skill like any other. It must be mastered. And there are ways to do that.

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Bars and clubs are not really my scene plus when I'm not working or at school I'm always drunk or high. I want to learn day game first because I keep doing night game on a daytime schedule and there in two separate categories for a reason. I understand the bars and clubs are good because it somewhere where people are already having fun or looking to have fun and interact with people, but I just figured it would be easier because I can make somebody feel good in a situation where they're feeling neutral or normal and raise their energy to a bar or club level even if they were just shopping or walking.

Where are you from? Naperville? Schaumburg? Tinley Park?

An hour away from the city... you could even probably take the L into the loop to save yourself money on parking. It costs 2.25 each way. If you can't afford that, you probably can't afford condoms so you probably shouldn't be having sex cause you DEFINITELY can't afford a child.

You're just making excuses or you're looking for people to coddle your balls..

The only decent "daygame" program I've ever seen is Sinn's Daygmae 3.0(which he doesn't even sell any more).
You can find it though.

Honestly, all of the other programs I've seen are utter garbage. And I don't sell any coaching. The daygame advice is all just shit. Total shit. Good Looking Loser has good advice on this front, though. He has no products, all of his material is free.

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Arlington heights one bus to the blue line. Not looking for attension I just don't do bars and clubs wtf. I'm not a troll or faggot crying jacking off the with my tears in the dark. Just trying to learn like everybody else.

Hands down my favorite daygamer is "TOM TORERO"
Look him up in youtube

His channel is highly active, his content is top notch - super clean - he is fucking UGLY which makes it even that much more incredible.

This guy is a solid example of good daygame - proper techniques/well grooming/nice style.

Couldn't do it better myself.

Intelligent/Driven/Good teacher

As someone who is highly experienced i would recommend this guy if you want to learn daygame's ins - outs

As far as daygame is concerned this guy is on top of shit, and a few others on his circle

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Huh? Wasnt Tom exposed as a fake though? Maybe I'm thinking of the wrong guy