Ok guys looking for good advice here...

Basically 2 or so years ago I was obsessed with this girl who has always lead me on but never had sex with me. Anyways fast forward a little bit and she gets a boyfriend who she chose over me and they do there thing for a few months in another part of UK. Anyways, after a few months they breakup as this guy treated her terribly and cheated etc etc

She then starts preparing to move to same city as me to start her career and at the time I was looking forward to it as still wanted to try and get with her I guess but then a few weeks before she moves to London I meet another amazing girl who becomes my girlfriend and I have been with her ever since. Anyways I still hang out with the old girl as friends but last time I chilled with her and her housemate we ended up back at their place and her housemate went to sleep and it was clear that she liked me and wanted to hook up. I feel bad for even putting myself in that situation when I have a girlfriend but anyways I basically said Im going and left without cheating or doing anything bad but when I said I'm going to leave she kept begging me to stay the night and then when I finally got up and actually left the room she didn't say bye back to me and said under her breath "you'll come round".

I really like my girlfriend and she's definitely good for me in the long term and a part of me feels like this other girl only likes me because I'm taken now but still I've started to feel weird about the whole thing as a part of me wants to hook up with the old girl as I never got the chance to and in some respect it would be a conquest but at the same time I don't want to do anything to hurt my girlfriend.

Need advice people...Thanks.

I'm not sure anyone here can truly help you.

Are you looking for someone here to give you permission?

This is about options. You appear to have them.

You could cheat, or you could not cheat... You could be with your girl, or try your luck with the other. Which girl do you want?

It's tricky because in the long term I want my girlfriend but there will always be a part of me that wants that conquest f**k

Also cheating is out of the question because I wouldn't want that playing on the back of my mind and there's a very good chance they would find out

So is it just me or does that sound a little obsessive and scary?


That said, I'd say the only real option to sleep with this chick would be to talk to your girlfriend about having an open relationship. Especially if you don't want to cheat (which you shouldn't.)

If you're not going to do that, might be wise to distance yourself from her.

My girlfriend won't be up for an open relationship she would probably cry and get angry because she feels inadequate due to the fact I would want to hook up with other girls.

Guess I'm going to have to try to distance myself from the other girl but she's part of my group of friends so could be difficult at times

Stay with your girlfriend IMO. Sounds like you really like her and if the other girl was leading you on before then she could be bad news and not long term potential.

Keep her on the side, be nice & if you ever break up with your girlfriend hopefully you can get that conquest f**k lol.

Although she probably will just lead you on again if you do break up with your girlfriend.