Hey friends. I've been playing the game for years and recently have been looking to try out something more serious. Unfortunately I'm not good at the serious stuff, which is why I'm here.

I'll keep it brief. It's a bit messed up forgive me.

Last year I gamed this HB9 and it blossomed into a connection with mutual strong feelings involved. It turned into an open long-distance thing (hey we both have needs hehe) when I had to move abroad cause of business, and it quickly deteriorated to "let's just be friends" cause (1) attraction was being lost over long-distance, (2) her ex was emotionally hurting her again and she never was really over him.

No biggy, I continued doing what I did best, and so did she apparently. She kept trying to crawl back into my life in the mean time but I didn't really do anything about it.

Anyway I visited her city again a few days ago cause of business (again) and we ended up having the best day together. Not just sex but all that romantic stuff you see on television. I felt alive man. However she kept saying that she was confused about her feelings. Mind you, I was banging her cousin during my visit, and she was fully aware and fine with it. She had her own sex buddy as well.

Here's where I need help. She called me when I left, confessing her feelings for me, and how random hook ups mean nothing to her anymore. But she's oh so very confused because I bring back dark insecurities and fears that she experienced with her ex (what the hell? This is new...) Something about how she doesn't want to get hurt again and how she loves how things currently are with her life right now.

Stupid guy that I am confessed my own feelings (though I remained relatively distant and casual), about how I wouldn't mind exploring our "relationship" more, to which she later replied that we should just remain friends cause of the baggage her ex left her with.

My question is, would a typical "game other girls in front of her so she starts chasing you again" work in this case? I'm sorry but the last time I had to deal with feelings was when I was a teen, however I don't fear it becoming onetitis. I'm asking cause I'm moving back to her city soon, where I will still be hooking up with her cousin if that factors into this at all.

Thanks in advance!

Game other girls infront of her? Terrible idea lol. That's a childish little game. If you want eachother then be together. If she doesn't want you, the strongest negotiating position is to be able to walk away and mean it; walk and don't look back.

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I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.

You're already in an open relationship (sorta) so I don't think gaming other girls in front of her is going to work for you.

I think she may come around actually.

Confessing her feelings to you may have been a test to see if you were at the same place as her and when you reciprocated it may have taken her by surprise.

I say your best course is to continue doing what you're doing... If random hookups are indeed meaningless to her these days, eventually she's going to want something more --- and you already know she at least has a basic want for that 'something more' to be with you...

You know her best, man... We have all of 3 paragraphs worth of information to base our opinions on... But that's my 2 cents anyway.

Best of luck