I dumped my girlfriend 3 months ago because I wanted to meet other girls. This is despite having a great relationship and loving each other. Having slept with a few girls and gone no contact for over a month - I realised I wanted her back, however, I went about it in a totally AFC way; drunk calling and texting, asking to see her even when she said no. She told me she wants 3 months no contact. After waiting a few weeks I couldn't stop myself and sent her flowers, apologising and asking to see her.

We met up and some of the old magic was definitely there - she eventually asked if i want to get back together to which I replied yes. She then said she wants to 'maybe one day' but not right now and 'It would be good to just be friends' and so on. I know that this essentially rejection.

I'm thinking of going no contact for 2 more weeks at least, then seeing her as a 'friend' but making no mention of the relationship, playing mildly hard to get. And basically just gaming her like a normal girl. Do you think this is a good idea? Any advice would be appreciated, thanks.

The best advice I can give you is if you find yourself in a great loving relationship with this girl or another. You know her better than any of us. I agree taking a breather is good. You've already shown your hand so to speak with your calls and other things. I do not know if it will happen again for you or not but first thing is to get in front of her again under any context. Build some trust again, then try to escalate.

_________________
Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

You're letting her know that she can have you at any time. If she knows that she can have you and at the same time do her own thing, there is no incentive for her to get back with you now. She knows she has time to explore other options because at the end of the day you'll be there waiting for her.

Her being comfortable knowing you are not considering other options is way too much power for her to have over you if she is seriously debating the notion of getting back with you. If you tell a car salesman that you want to check another car out before you make a decision to buy this one, he's going to let you know that someone else is interested in the car you want. It would put pressure on you to purchase the car now. You need to have the mentality of the car salesman. If she knows that other women are interested and have a shot at getting you, the pressure will be on for her to take you back (That is if she's really interested).

_________________
mpuaforum.proboards.com

I am totally agree with @JackZero !!

_________________
Advanced Guide Of PUA:- confident up

Thanks for the replies everyone. My original plan was to no contact for 2-3 weeks and then see her in a low pressure environment for a short amount of time, being very fun lighthearted etc and then cutting the date short as soon as it gets good. Possibly going nc for a few days again and seeing if she asks to see me. I think it could work, but either way I will not be offering to make any commitments or mentioning the relationship (whilst still going out with other girls, friends) . Is this a decent plan?

Jack nailed it.

Showing your hand like that is such a hard thing to bounce back from. It's almost always impossible, honestly. You can try the no contact approach but basically the ball's in her court now. Definitely wait until she contacts you. If she doesn't, move on, and realize that sometimes it's better to just have chicks on the side than to lose a good girl like that. Sad but true.

_________________
You must be overconfident and cocksure, even if you haven't got a god damn thing in the world going for you. And you must fail with women until you do not fear the possibility of failure, whereupon you will succeed wildly.

She said she wanted 3 months no contact BUT she agreed to meet you earlier. That's a sign that she wants you that much that it is difficult to stick to her initial plans. She felt flattered when you started pursuing her because that's what she wanted.
The whole thing you seeing other girls must have made her feel insecure and hurt.
She said to you "maybe one day" because she is playing hard to get. She wants you back but she is unsure if you will stay or leave her for the same reasons you did before. So she is trying to evaluate if you mean what you say.
I don't think you should go no contact. I think you should continue talking as a friend and build rapport. Don't play hard to get. Meet with her and kino her. Touch her hand "accidentally" here and there... give her a cuddle... "like friends", make her giggle etc and kiss her.
I disagree with JackZero to make her feel you have other options.
It seems in this forum ALL they advise when it comes to women is "how to make her jealous" and "how to make her chase". These methods don't suit every.single.occasion.
You left your girl to sleep with other girls. She knows and in her mind you are somewhat of a player. Projecting the image that you are wanted will only make her feel insecure and put more obstacles to stop you playing with her feelings.
Your goal is to make her open up to you and get in a relationship with you. Don't buy her flowers, drunk call her etc. That's lame.
Meet up with her, text her, talk to her on facebook etc. ie seduce her.
Don't ask her like a little kid to be her boyfriend. BE her boyfriend. After you see her as a bf one of you will confirm that you are exclusive. And that's it. You are back in a relationship.
Expect some jealousy/insecurity from her part in the future because you left her to date other women.

This is odd that you would disagree considering your "weird guy" post. You know the guy that had options with women in his social group. Let's remind you of what you said and wanted advice for. You wanted this "weird guy" and you knew he had options. Instead of letting him go, you wanted to figure out how to make him commit to you. Not too much off from the advice that I offered OP.

_________________
mpuaforum.proboards.com

Ok - I agree with both jack zero and Maria's advice. I am thinking of following Maria's advice but making zero mention of the relationship or serious topics, playing a bit hot and cold: basically gaming her as I would any girl. I think by pursuing her in this way it will remind her of the best parts of the relationship whilst simultaneously implying (via social media, conversation) that i have other options. Any thoughts on this? Either way appreciate all the replies and I do see that both sides of the argument are logical.

@jackzero

Yes and what did you guys told me??

Because of the POWER games there was no hope that I would be able to get into a healthy relationship with the guy. That's why you advised me to forget about him.
It was an unhealthy situation that wasn't leading to a happy relationship. So why should IvoBlades introduce an unhealthy element in something that was working perfectly when he was just being himself?
His relationship ended only because he wasn't convinced that the grass was not greener at the other side of the fence..