Alright. What's the difference between qualifying yourself and the law of reciprocity? By law of reciprocity meaning telling grounding stories of yourself, sharing things about you to make it more likely tht the set will share things/ become more comfortable in conversation with you, and answering questions tht are hoops.

I believe the difference between the two would have to be that the law of reciprocity would be the same thing as an exchange of respect. While qualifying would have to be a refusal to ask for respect in return while you are giving it. Of course this is just a theory but it makes sense to me. Who knows though I kind of just made that up and I am in need of some help myself but I will stick around.

Well really dislike the fact of how guys just overinvest giving women they dnt even know all the power. Without your power women CANNOT be attracted or respect you.

Qualification and Reciprocity are two different things. Qualifications is getting the other person to see the value in you. Reciprocity is trading one thing for another. If you tell an embarrassing story of yourself, that's not really raising your value so you're not qualifying yourself. But if she in turns tells you an embarrassing story, that's reciprocity because she sees your story as having entertainment value.

Reciprocity in conversation doesn't equal attraction. It just means interesting conversation.

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Thought tht sharing things about yourself with little to no investment from the set was qualifying yourself n giving your power trying to win her over

You're looking at it in too much of a black and white situation.

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Would really lke to be re-educated on how you qualify yourself or at what extent are you even considered qualifying yourself. Just suddenly confused.

In seduction, you qualify the woman and NOT yourself. This is the proper seducer's frame of mind; not the other way around.

The idea is to let the woman feel she earned your attraction.

For example:

You: Your hands are so smooth. I bet you can't cook and don't even clean your apartment. These smooth hands are the hands of a girl who does Facebook all the time and nothing else.

Girl: Asshole. I bake cookies. I clean my room. I do the dishes. I do the laundry. I iron my clothes.

You: Really? You're a cool girl then. But of course, actions speak louder than words.

Girl: What? What do you mean?

You: Let's do some groceries for your cookies. My treat. I would love to know if you can bake great tasting cookies.

Girl: Deal. (High fives you.)

Once you have bounced the girl around from one grocery store to another, you bring her to your apartment so she can cook.

After cooking, show her your messy room. She's more than likely to clean it up. After the clean up, that's when you f-close.

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Qualification is you trying to sell yourself to her. It's a bad way to approach things. It's almost like saying "You should like me and here's why." If you approach with a more confident and organic approach it's going to come across as naturally attractive. There is no reason for you to qualify yourself to her because the chemistry will be there.

There are times that qualification is to your advantage and that's when you're easing concerns. For instance, if you're dating a hired gun she may tell you about how insecure her ex's were about her job. If you have dated a hired gun and never displayed insecurity..go ahead and qualify yourself.

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To me qualifying yourself always meant to talk about yourself in which is situationally irrelevant or answering her questions easily tht are about you starting with "I". Also, saying "I" at all to her.

You're on a PUA forum. You may want to switch to the universally accepted definitions if you want an accurate answer to your questions.

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