Hey guys,

now there's this girl that I share a long story with. I've known her for 3 years and I had a pretty heavy crush on her. She's in a long distance RS. When we first met we were crazy after each other and met all the time. I guess I fucked it up though because I never escalated. When I couldn't handle it anymore I told her about my feelings. We didn't see each other in a while and then started meeting again, but she started playing me really hard. Last summer I decided to break up the contact. She took quite some effort to get back into my life.

This certainly changed dynamics. I feel I don't have any romantic feelings for her anymore. I'd still like to fuck her, she seems f*ckin dirty. She used to drive me crazy talkin' about sex. I started taking revenge in January. I would mention something sexual and the next time we meet she would make a reference there and seemed slightly turned on.
I was gone the whole February traveling and since my return every time we meet she comes up with a couple of ideas so we would meet. For instance...

"Are you in a hurry after class?"
Without me mentioning my bd "Ahja we have to meet soon, I have a present for you." (Later found out through a friend she still doesn't have a present)
"Have you watched the series X? I just started 30 mins and I'm not sure if I shall continue."
I quickly say hi while I visit my friend that lives together with her in a flat "Oh heeyyy [holds my both hands] ... Ahja but will you come to me later? You won't be gone later, right?"
"We could play basketball together tomorrow."
"And when are we playing music together again?"
"You have to show me the pictures of your journey and explain everything."
"Nooo you have to show up on Tuesday, otherwise I'll be bored." (4x)
"I have a rehearsal at X" Me: "You can drop by later, then I'll show you the pictures" "Yeah, thats what I thought! I'll call you after the rehearsal"

On the other hand she seems to refuse taking my offers:
She wouldn't come to a concert i played after telling me to do so. Her friend tells me "She says hi. She told me she hung out to long with her Czech [male] friends and now needs to practice."
I invite her to our house party "Yeah I don't know yet, I first meet the Czech guys and then [a common friend of ours] is coming and wanted to see me and then there is a concert. But I'll probably join later"
Of course she wouldn't call me after the rehearsal and just go home, even if it took place 5 mins from my place.

We used to have sexy times a while ago, lying in bed, massaging and caressing each other. I would stroke her lower back and she would go "What do you like down there?" with that sexy voice. She would even almost moan while a caress the inside of her leg but end the situation just before i escalate.
Yesterday I visit my friend again and enter her room before I go. Since she's a drummer I showed her cummingordrumming (check it out yourself and talk suggestive all the time. She tries to convince me to go to class on Tuesday. I'm like
"Nooo, there's so many better things to do. I could practice... I could watch something...." *pause*
She "You could play cumming or drumming"
"Yeah I could do sexy things"
She: "You could grab your dick"
I touch it. "No grab it!" I touch it harder "No grab it!" So I grab it through my trousers.
I tell her she can grab it too, ready to tell her "Its not free" but she says "Nooo, I dont need to"
Later we try to find a name for her p*ssy (WTF???) She suggests "Fruita", I go for "Lychee". She doesn't know the fruit and I explain to her what it is like. After I show her a picture she asks "How to you open it? With a knife?" I show her in a dirty way how to eat it, taking her hand palm instead of the fruit.
Then she throws me out sort of, laughing, seemed like she was turned on, telling me again to show up on Tuesday.

Now guys please tell me there is potential!?!? She can't be fuckin playing and not be attracted at all, can she? She seems to suggest things to do and refuse doing them at the same time. I only need one f*ckin more chance, cuddling in bed together, massaging each other but I don't know if I'm gonna get it. What do I do to break her resistency there?!?

I think she likes having you as a possibility, and likes the attention you give her.

You won't know how far you can get unless you escalate... and you don't seem to be doing that.

True. But isn't it right that you have to be in a more or less adequate situation in order to escalate? Even more when your target is taken? I guess it's on me setting up that situation.
How does she always talk about spending time with me and then seem to back down when it's finally on? How do I deal with that? How do I cross her push pull game?

How much more adequate does it get than being in the same bed with her and talking to her about your penis?

That's what you wrote, isn't it?

I was standing in front of her, she lying in bed. I was about to leave, I just said goodbye to her. I need her to agree on watching series again or something. A setting where I don't enter the room only in order to say goodbye basically.
I've lost a bet once and she won an hour of massage. There were two periods where she wanted the massage, but we couldn't find time. Then she seemed to refuse getting it. Damn she won't let me as close again, because she knows it's dangerous.. Any ideas?

Yes - stop being a chicken. You're making excuses now.

You've been told what to do.

Get her out/over and escalate. Then you'll have your answer. There is nothing difficult about this.

I still think you're being used for attention - but hey...

She acts ambivalently. At the same time she expresses she wants to meet me by saying dozens of things we have to or could do together as well as refuses to actually meet up it seems. I can meet her any time if I show up at the flat but that way chances are low that we really spend a while together in order to set the vibe up.
She's either just fuckin playing everything and only enjoys being in control + is not about to meet me really. Or she wants to see me but gets cold feet when there are chances it might get too close.
In the first case there's nothing really I can do. In the second I guess I need to give her the feeling safety or so in order to set up the date.

If "Just do it" was what I was looking for, I wouldn't be on this forum.. If everyone tells me "There is nothing specifically you can do" so that I can only try to make appointments or meet her "accidently" and then rush and try to escalate, then I'll have to except that.