Hi guys,

So I have a problem right now: I'm interested in a girl that is her early thirties (I am 2 years younger) but the problem is that she likes older men. Her past boyfriends were 45 and 48 and the "ridiculous" part is that she is very intelligent, has a top job and earns a lot of money, so it is not a money issue!

When I met her I tried to be funny, to make jokes about her clothes and to start touching hands, arms etc, however when she started to realize that I didn't want to be just her friend she started telling me 'jokes' like "you are too young for me ahahaha", "you are a great friend" and other things like asking my opinion about older guys that were at the street, basically to make me understand that she only sees me as a friend.. so I guess I am at the middle of the friendzone right now.

I am just wondering how should I behave because I'm feeling stupid with this situation. I guess there must be a way.

Should I make jokes about her liking older men like telling her "look that bald old men right there (while looking at a fat old man of 50's/60's for example), he is perfect for you go there and meet him!" or saying "You are not going to meet my father, you are dangerous!"

Should I invite her to have more mature "date" like going to have dinner at a top restaurant and pay the bill like a "real mature man" should do (not..)

Any ideas?

Sometimes people like what they like and they're committed to it. So understand that you can't change everyone. Did she give you a reason as to why she likes older men?

Edit: I should also add that it sounds like, from how I'm reading it, you are trying to push her into a relationship direction. You may be able to get her into a FWB or FB situation a lot easier than you would with a relationship.

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She told that she likes mature men that can make her feel safe and don't cheat on her. I guess she had a past boyfriend with the same age as her that cheated a lot on her, so she moved to older men after that...

So it's an insecurity and not the fact that she finds them more attractive. You should go with the not trying to be her boyfriend stance when she objects. If you can say it and mean it, you have a chance.

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