I wanted to get your guy’s take on this, gonna keep it short.

I have gone on a few dates (4) with a girl i met on tinder. Every thing is pretty kosher, she is initiating txt contact once a day and we talked on the phone a few times.

She starts a new project for work and tells me her texting might be a little sparse. She ends up working very long hours and as she mentioned texted died off a lot.

She mentioned that we might be able to get together after she gets off work one day. Thing is …. She was estimating 1-2 AM. In all honestly I was too eager to accommodate (I know oops). I end up falling asleep and she doesn’t call.

Now I am having to initiate text (Sometimes double txting) and getting very short answers (Text ratio is off). There were a few times when i told her to hit me up when she got off work but I was always asleep or so close to sleep i decided not to capitalize.

I fly to San Fran in a few days and will be gone for a week and setting up a date will be neigh impossible until i get back.

I kind of dig this girl … but not sure if I have mind fucked myself or not.
Options, Opinions any feedback at all?

Edit: We did friend each other on FB. She has and does like a good portion of my post.... Don't know if this matters.

Sounds like she's bored.
Your best tool at this point is jealousy.

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Yeah I'd go for a Hail Mary and see if you can get her to come over tonight (tinder is the hookup app). Then she'll either come over or turn you down. I'd ask her if she felt like doing something and then if she says yes, say "your place or mine?"

Completely mind fucked.

When it gets to the point in which you're making a post about a girl on the internet; you're usually mind fucked.

Thing is, when she said that texting would probably fall off because of her new project that was your time to object and let her know that you guys have to do your best to maintain it because thats what the foundation of the interaction was built up on. But nope.. You allowed her statement to ring true and lead you instead of interjecting and taking lead.

That was the first thing to put you behind.

You're currently driving behind her on a one way street and you need to get ahead of her. Not going to happen so long as you stay on this road. Reverse and pull off.

You have to disappear for a bit and let her come and get you. Its all you have.

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Great take and great advice! Thanks!

Edited the errors in the original post. I wrote that in the freezing cold. I'm sure it makes more sense now.

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4 dates? What are you waiting for? You should know whether or not "it's on" within no longer than say... an hour. If you're still not feeling it after that... move the fuck on.

Saying that you've gone out on 4 dates and you're still playing this stupid game says 1 of 3 things...

1. You are totally clueless as to whether or not this girl actually wants to have sex with you.

2. You see the signs but are a big ole' pussy who's just afraid to make a move.

3. You can't make the logistics work. This could be for various reasons.