| Hello, gentleman.
I have seen on several thereads that to pick up a girl you should "play chess, not checkers", meaning you should plan a few moves ahead. This is something I am not very good at, especially with a girl in particular. This one has been one of my closest friends for almost 3 years now. I've had a crush on her since we met, way before I even knew about PUA. And although I have a fairly decent game by now, I always jump the gun when it comes to this girl. She says she feels down, I take her out on a date. She asks for a favor, I do it right away. Always thinking "this is my shot", just to end up being the backup plan. Needless to say that got me deep in the friend zone. Although she always shows some jealousy when I notice other girls... Because of that, and because she knew me before I got into PUA, she only sees the beta orbiter version of me. Well, guess what, that guy is gone.
She broke with her BF some 6 months ago. She was a mess and again I played the knight in shining armor, taking her out, being attentive, and again I got fucked, and not in the good way. About a month ago she got with some other dude and gave me the LJBF. That was the last straw, I believe it is Eddie Fews who says that "to get the girl you have to risk losing the girl" and that might just be what's happening. She figured she could get together with some other dude and I would still be there for when she needs, like a permanent backup plan. It would have been true before, but now it backfired on her face.
I broke rapport (and we had a lot) and she seriously misses it since she is constantly trying to start conversations and complains how I changed. Before, I would cancel any plans to hang out with her, now I moved her to the bottom of the list. She had a job interview somewhere a few weeks back. Normaly I would drive her there, this time when she called I did not offer, so she asked directly. I refused without giving a reason other than "I don't feel like it". A few days ago she wanted to go to a party, again, usually I would jump all over that chance but this time I simply said I had plans.
Not only that, she showed very poor judgement with the guy she picked. A needy chode wanabe "gangsta" who earns minimum wager and took her out to dinner at Pizza Hut on valentines day. What a joke. Plus they have been on the verge of breaking up at least twice, which is pretty high, since they are dating for little more than a month. And thanks to a twist of fate I recently gained a lot more value as a potential mate. I got out of my dead end job and landed a job as a Mercedes Benz salesman (suit and tie + awesome service car + confortable salary and bonus). On valentines day I took a girl to some very fancy restaurant and she did one of those facebook tag things when she posted "at fancy place x with french - thanks for the wonderful evening" sharing it on my timeline with a very cute selfie of us kissing. Things did not got very far with that girl, but still, it was a hell of a DHV.
I get a feeling she is starting to realize she just lost a great catch and is thinking about it. How's that for a chess game... So, to make sure I don't jump the gun yet again, when do I stop playing cold and reheat things with her?
Thank you for reading my long post.
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