Hey whats up guys,

I have been recently been struggling with girls ever since I came back to my hometown and what is funny is how I was never like this last spring and summer until I left for Va. Tech. During my time there, I had absolutely NO contact with civilian girls because I was enrolled in their prestigious corps of cadets program. This meant that I was a part of an organization that is designed to make me a future leader/officer in the military upon graduation and although that is what I wish to accomplish in the future, the training that I had to undergo completely changed my mindset on the way I behave around people let alone girls. I noticed this change when I transferred institutions (academic/financial reasons) and came back to my hometown (northern va) and attended a college here. First off being from Northern VA means that a lot of the people you are around are usually high strung due to the location being very close to washington dc. People here tend to be more career oriented and seem to not have any time for potential relationships/hookups. Apart from all of that, I noticed I became more "stiff" in personality, quiet (not in the sense that I am being shy) and less flirtatious. I kind of lack the motivation to confidently walk up to a girl and chat her up also my level of attraction has severely went down. I tend to lack making strong eye contact and speaking my mind. I didn't have much civilian exposure in the sense that I was able to go to parties, hook up with girls, etc while at tech. it was only school and military nothing more nothing less (no staying out) but before I went to tech I was fine and had several potential girlfriends. Things just radically changed after coming back and I fear that by the time I get the rhythm going it will be my last semester before graduation (that is too late for me lol) with that being said do you guys think that I should do something fast or just take my time again like I am starting from scratch (holy shit I never thought I would freak about approaching a girl and complimenting her wtf.)

Thanks Guys

Get a few shots of liquor courage in you and go to parties/events. Like Nike says just do it. Either have some booze or a bunch of caffeine to make you more impulsive. Don't think about approaching girls, just automatically walk up to them and figure out what to say as you start talking to them.

I put it this way, do not think in your head, think out loud. Once you start thinking about how to approach and what to say then you psyche yourself out. All you should be thinking is that girl is hot, and a few seconds later you're in front of her talking.

Count to 10 in your head, if you haven't approach the girl by then you do not look confident. Plus counting in your head might distract from the insecure thoughts in your head.

No...no...no...

This is a terrible idea. Alcohol you are hit or miss but either way you become dependent on an altered state in order to get women.

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To clarify I am not advocating getting drunk. Sometimes a beer/shot or two loosens you up.

My belief is if you get dependent on alcohol to talk to girls, then that is more of an alcohol problem rather than a girl problem.

I do not see the harm in a few drinks if you can handle your alcohol.

I am not an expert, and I am not saying saying alcohol is a cure-all. I've just found from the experience of myself and others that it can help out when you're getting back into the swing of things.

Unless you're a guy that's really intellectual, and has some alcohol hinders your game in some manner then I do not see the harm in a few drinks.

It's a crutch. If you're going out, drink because that's what you do when you go out. If you're using it to make it easier to approach women, figure out a different way to get the courage to do so.

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What exactly is your question? This just seems like a rant to me...

The purpose of the rant is to let you know the current state I am in. Alcohol does not help

Fair enough, to each their own. Do you have any friends that will push you to be more confident and social. Perhaps be honest with them, and enlist their help.

I had one last spring semester at my community college (this guy was humble but a magnet he didn't talk much but attracted girls effectively to the point where you didn't want to bring any of your girlfriends around him lol) and to be honest that whole semester up until the summer I had NO problem with girls partly I was interacting more at work and at school. I had a certain vibe I was was more flirtatious and even did some stuff with a girl (yet I still have my v-card because I felt I can have sex on a whim ) things changed after I transferred schools and left my friend all he did was give me a slight push and I just got the hang of how girls are. I don't want to rely on a friend too much because I wish to do so on my own.

Any raves or dance club type venues around you? In my experience, those places are pretty easy to pick up girls. So long as you have the confidence to go dance with them, then minimal conversational skills or much game is required. My tall-tell sign is if a chick is grinding with you and to hold your hand really tight, you can definitely at least get her number.

I suppose a different route would be to befriend a few not so attractive women, chances are they have a decent looking friend.

When I was younger, I found out that have plenty of women buddies helped open many doors, usually they are routing for you and will help you find other girls.

Well I would have to go to D.C. for clubs (closest to me) other than that hookah bars and these bars are usually filled with stuck up arab girls. From my past experience, when I have a job that can help because I am constantly talking to my co-workers/customers