Hey dudes.

New to the community, started taking an interest a few months back, read a few books, did some challenges and seem to be doing ok for myself.

But there's always that one, ha.

Met her a few months back, she worked at a coffee mall. First thing she said was a compliment "I love your hair!". Anyways later she told me she had a boyfriend. We kept in touch a little bit just because we share similar interests/got on/ Istill wanted to try it on. Anyway, few weeks ago he dumped her. Started talking a lot more. She invited me around to cook dinner w/ her last week, go for drinks etc.had an awesome time - but damn she's still stupidly down about her ex bf (understandable, were together for a while). Like I get an earful about it every time we hang out. She obviously values my company and pretty sure she'd go out on a date but I don't really want to jump in and try my luck, I've got a horrible feeling it's too soon for her and she'll flip and it'll all backfire on me, ha. Cautious of slipping into FZ though? Not really an option for me.

You're already deep in the Fz. The only time a woman is not ready to get sexual with a guy she is into is if there is something physically wrong with her; doesn't mean she'll give it up to every guy she is attracted to of course, but there is little difference between men/women when it comes to horniness etc.
Then be content to stay in the Fz.

I think you are not partaking in the abundnace of females that are available to you because you seem hung up on this one that you are friends with. Make a move with her or better yet meet more women; either way take some action. Respect yourself enough to know that you deserve more than the Fz; if she rejects, so be it.

The mere fact that you are her shoulder to cry on time and time again is Friendzone City. MOVE OUT OF THIS ZONE IMMEDIATELY.

Best wishes to you mate.

Oceanx is right. Ignore her boyfriend and talk about something else. You have to lead the conversation more and qualify her and build commonalities and break rapport to build attraction. Escalate on her slowly and calibrate to her behaviors. If she is receptive and you think you can go for the kiss, go for it.

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Thanks for the advice dude, it's much appreciated. I'm going to be taking action today, I know that for sure.

Respecting myself/deserving more is just a difficult one for me, I've got bipolar disorder and there are times (like the last 48hrs) where I literally don't value myself in the slightest, just can't see how anyone else could think I deserve more if I don't believe it myself, but there you go! Time to get out of this slump and sort this mess out haha.