| Hey guys, would like your input on this...
So I started seeing this girl about 2 months ago, she was fresh out of a relationship (she broke it off with the guy, was a bit of an AFC from what I know) and had always had her eye on me since we met a while ago. Didn't talk to her much until we started seeing each other. So I took her out, had a great day 2 with lots of kino and k-closed (I had stuff to do next day so I cut the date short). Met up one week later for the f-close and been having a great time since then, we click very well both physically and mentally, as well as through common interests. It might be just to stroke my ego but she told me she never really got wet or came with many of her exes, which I've done to her pretty much every time we've had sex, girl is soaking wet every time. Sex is definitely one area where I don't have trouble. She even began to make plans for us months in advance, including me in thoughts of her future and all.
So here's the tricky part. When we first met up, she said she wanted to just have fun, to which I agreed, I never plan to enter a relationship, I just enjoy myself and they just happen. Over the next couple of weeks, we established that having fun was the priority for now, but should the right person come along, we'd be open to a relationship. I'm pretty sure we had each other in mind here, as she calls me unique and that I "get" her and that we're on the same wavelength.
Anyway, last week she told me that she had seen someone else she'd been seeing for a month or so, had the opportunity to have sex but then I crossed her mind and she backed out. So we had a talk about boundaries, and I let her know that it's cool for us to see other people and appreciate her telling me but personally if I'm sleeping with a girl she's the only one I'm sleeping with and that I look for the same with the woman (she knows I have plenty of options that I'm seeing though, and knows I get a lot of attention from girls). To this she said she still wanted to just have fun, but if it made me uncomfortable that she wouldn't sleep with other guys. She's never banged multiple dudes before anyway. But I told her, if this is something you want to do you can feel free to go mess around, but I won't stick around for it, no hard feelings. She said she doesn't want to throw away what we have because it's awesome and that she'd think about it and let me know when she's ready.
For now, I will not contact her at all, if she contacts me to make small talk then I'll engage and won't bring our previous talk up unless she does. I'd like to keep seeing her (and I do see her as long term potential) as I feel we really get on well together, plus the sex is fantastic, but at the same time I won't abandon the boundaries I've set. I feel I've done quite well so far on this one, and do note that I'm not trying to make this exclusive out of insecurity, but because I want her and think we'd be good together. Also keep in mind she has never really been single, this is the first time in awhile she hasn't been in a relationship.
What's my best course of action here guys? And I didn't think I screwed up that talk, but who knows, maybe you guys see something I don't. Any feedback is appreciated.
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