To be frank with you, I had a dream a couple years back that I was having sex with her in my old apartment. During this time I was with my ex. Since then I've always wanted to have sex with her. In fact theres been several occasions when I thought about her while having sex. Idk maybe that's all I want, but I'd like to pursue what I want, make a movie on it as I inVision the possibility of it happening. Yes! I am in my prime and since I've been back from my trip I met a girl who I've slept with several times, and for the first time ever have been able to meet several women and socially engage myself without a problem now which used to be before.
I think after my breakup 7 months ago it put things into perspective for me in terms of not giving a F#uck about certain things. Children, sure one day but not now as I'm focused on a startup with my two business partners. However, this girl and I have great chemistry and many things in common. Sure the age gap is 11 years lol but I don't give a crap. When we've been hanging out lately I can just tell she wants it and I should of made it happen on Halloween when we were together but it was just bad planning on my part.
I'm gonna call her next week, and invite her to a couple of event Friday evening, get a solid dinner somewhere and drinks at the spot I'll book. I just have to make sure she's down to hangout before hand. I cut off contact for this week, and if she happens to contact me before Monday I'll just invite her then.
P.S. I also might be
reacting to the chemical explosions happening in my body in the moment.
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Hey all,
New to the forums and I had already introduced myself in the New User section of the site. Psyched to be here and get some advice and leads from individuals who have experience similar situations as the one I'm about to describe. Now this post may be sorta long but It's interesting.
So about four years ago I met a girl at work who is a dancer. I was the lead designer there and we'd work on projects together. We grown pretty close while working together in terms of communication but never took it to the next level as at the time I was engaged. I ended up not getting married to the girl I was with unrelated to this situation. I dated other women as well and was in a 2 year relationship that went south after finding out the girl cheated. Anyway back to this friend of mine... Throughout the years we would just either talk via Facebook messenger or text here and there. A couple of years after she left she came back to work and we connected again. Only this time I was leaving the job to travel on an extensive trip I had planned out for a while. Before I took on this trip we started hanging out a bit, biking together a lot as we both enjoyed doing this. We have a lot in common but I didn't want to get into anything because at the time I was about to leave on my trip. So a couple months later we broke contact as I was away for about 3 months.
I always thought about her and surprisingly she called me during my trip and left a message saying she missed me and wanted to connect. Wasn't sure where I was but wanted to say hello and tell me she lost her phone and is trying to get a new one (she was on dad's cell phone). I returned the call and got a VM leaving a message but still haven't heard back.
So upon returning home from my trip I get a call from her with a new number and she wanted to connect and see me, hangout and catch up. It's been like five months since we've seen each other maybe even six or seven perhaps lol. Anyway meeting up again was amazing, everything came together and we didn't have to try hard at all to understand each other. We hung out overnight in the city having a blast and walking around, eating everywhere and crossing bridges looking at the water and talking. This past Halloween I called her and invited her to a party which she attended, we had another great time, got drinks at the bar and was definitely using Kino this night holding hands through crowds, hand gently placed around her waste leading her across the street. I think she felt secure, she tightly curled her arm into mine while walking and I can feel her pressure which through me off.
Problem
After returning from my trip I currently don't have an apartment, neither does she and so this puts the logistics in a bad position as I cannot bring her back to where I'm crashing now (Sister's apartment temporarily). I don't mind getting a hotel spur of the moment but have been looking into other prospects like Airbnb to keep cost down. Anyway next week I'm going to an party which my partner and I will attend (Business). I plan to invite her and after it's done was thinking of leading her to a rental for drinks and to hangout more. I also wanted to catch a museum show with her on something I know she will love. So I kinda want to lay out the logistics before hand but just have to make sure she is available.
My question is, do you think I'm wasting my time/money?
I think anyone can get out of the friend zone, I think the reason we were friends at the time was because we worked very close to each other and didn't want conflict
I've had two serious relationships in my life, one for 6 years almost marrying and the second for 2 1/2 who cheated. I'd like to take my chances and see if I can make something out of this.
Not that this is an issue but I just turned 30 last month and this girl also just turned 41, our birthdays are a few weeks apart.
I laughed when you said this GIRL is 41. lol..
Anyway man.. I can't help but wonder why on earth would a guy in his prime be interested in having a relationship with a woman that is past her prime? I'm going to need you to explain that to me. Not to mention it sounds like you're trying to get laid. It doesn't sound like you're trying to lay down the proper foundation to build a relationship upon. There is something conflicting there.
Not to mention, I don't think a 41 year old is in position to friend zone anyone.
And I also can't help but wonder if you want a family or not? The odds are she can no longer get pregnant; and maybe you may not want kids now, but don't you think you may eventually want some?
Are you sure you're thinking this through bro or are you just reacting to the chemical explosions happening in my body in the moment?
CHAT
well kinda...hahaha...I would love to go...undecided...have a date with mom 