Hi guys,

Just a general query here on whether I should Facebook message a girl or not.

To tell the story I was out in a night club last night and this girl started trying to grab my attention as I was walking past her tapping my shoulder, waving, smiling at me etc. So I decided to go up and to talk to her she seemed very nice extremely confident as well, I suppose most women would be if there were as stunning as she was. I kept going back and leaving her through out the night there was a lot of kino, I suupose touching her ass was the most it escalated to, there was also a kiss close. She took out her phone at one point and added me as a friend on facebook so I accepted this morning.

We have been on and off facebook today and I'm wondering should I message her or should I await till I meet her in that club again as we both go there regularly the two of us will probably be there next Saturday night. Just thinking a message might come on to strong and needy like, I would be worried about letting it slip she's very stunning and intriguing girl. I see it on her facebook page she goes to that club regularly in a small city we both live near no doubt well be seeing each other again. Also if I were to message what would be the best thing to say?

Thanks in advance.

She added you? Go nuts then. Message away - and don't wait too long or she'll forget about you.

Transition to phone number for calls and text asap though...

If she basically opened you, by tapping on your shoulder, it's a cinch man, she's totally into you. You only need to worry about appearing needy if you really are. If you've got other things in your life, such as goals, work, etc. and connect with her when you're not doing these, you won't appear needy. I would definitely show interest in this girl ASAP, so that she knows you're into her. She took a major risk by showing you she was into you, and if you don't show interest back, she could feel hurt and then ignore you in order to not be rejected. It's a fine line, but I'd say, in general, if you are confident in yourself, you can show interest in a girl and not appear needy at all. It's all in your aura, your vibe, the way you carry yourself, the way you interact with her, via messaging or voice or in person.

Message her, just don't get needy.

You want to show similar interest that she is showing in you or slightly less, but so little that she doesn't even know that you're in to her.