Hi, how is it going fellows.

Its got kind of messy at least from my perspective... I'd appreciate an wake up insight.

About 3 months ago I broke with this girl that we initially used to be just friends and then we hooked up. Yea its this one that I kind of spammed the forum about a while ago.

So brief reminder: we hooked up for a while, slept once and eventually she game me LJBF. I didn't minded much about back then, so I was cool with it.

However now (about 3 months later) i feel shity about it and kind of double minded.

During those months I used to date other women, but nothing serious really happened.

Part of me is willing to call her, but the other part of me (the smarter part) is saying that better not. It was she that gave me LJBF though. But it was time ago, and I passed the 1 even 2+ months of no contact.

I don't want to look like I chase her, because that last of our communication I asked her to hang out and she acted disinterested and cold. So thats how things ended ~3 months ago. Thats why part of me is thinking that I shouldn't contact her. I value myself after all.

ON THE OTHER HAND I feel bad about it and I don't want to keep a grudge about it, especially for something so small like this. Also who knows maybe she also is thinking if she made a mistake or wanting to hear from me. (maybe not) but who knows.

I'm not afraid that I'll be able to meet a new girl or something. I meet new girls constantly, but it is hard to make a real connection with most of them.

IDK how is best to proceed in this situation. I want to take some action but I just don't know what is best.
because:

1. If i contact her = i'm reaching out to her again, I don't demonstrate value => no attraction
2. If i don't contact her, nothing happens (obviously she will not contact)
3. When I pick/date other chicks I feel bad that I couldn't handle this one.

I focus on my goals and passions in life but this scenario is really causing me internal issues. It is hard to keep my focus until I figure it out.

Before we hooked up we were just friends and then at least we had a "friendship" (not a deep one, but we maintained contact), now... its silence, plain nothing... very very lame.

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Is she said LJBF after you guys hooked up it must have been a little awkward. But that doesnt mean she wont see you again... she might even be curious to what your up 2.

I would personally try and call her / contact her... My thing is Why not? The worst thing she does is she shes not interested... and you just move on

But if she does wanna meet up with you....you gotta DHV to her and show her your different... more of a man... or whatever she though was "lacking" before. Fuck her good. Make her wanna stay.

Best,
Duke

Yeah she said LJBF after we hooked up. She claimed that our relationship is better if we are not romantic etc. although we were for a while. IDK why she said that and... actually who cares. As I recall I didn't exhibited any weak, jealous, controlling behavior that would repel her. I told her straight direct that she is free and can do what ever she wants with whomever she wants. I don't believe you can tell or women (or anyone) to do what you want them to do. They have to do it because they want to do it.

But anyway...

Here is the full detailed story from about 3 months ago.

I was thinking to contact her too, but i just don't know how best to approach it. Should I text her, should I call should I facebook her. Just saing "hey want to hang out?" sounds too boring too me.

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