| I only have little experience from such gatherings, so I can only share the little I know. It's mostly thanks to my mother who (thanks to her job) works with the elite of society. This in itself is quite interesting as she started off as working class, working her way up to middle class, pulling off events for presidents and other celebrities. However, even if I know how to behave, I still feel uncomfortable having a stick up my ass all night long.
Anyway... What I know is this. Some people are very prejudiced and/or have a specific list of requirements on a partner, as education, level of income etc. If you don't meet those standards your chances are probably slim. A girl usually wants a man who, in some sence, is "better" than her. Not only because you are supposed to be the provider, but also because of social pressure on the girl. She is more or less consciously comparing herself and other people against people who are close to her, like friends and family. "What will my friends think!?". This is of course only valid as long as she LIKES her family and friends, if she identifies herself as one of them. But let's not dig into that. Psychology is quite a big topic. Let's just say that there is always exceptions.
A couple of rules easy to remember are: Never let anything impress you, but give half hearted compliments if it seems appropriate. Learn the language, how to speak, and the learn about their world so you can ask the right questions and make a good impression. Other than that, people are still people and there is no big difference. Just make sure to blend in.
What have I succeded with in these circles? Unfortunately it was mostly before my time in the game, so I was quite unskilled. But I have at least made such good impression that people remember me, saying hi, and seem happy to see me again. Some girls have shown clear signs of attraction, but I never had time to take it anywhere (or I got problems with the logistics). Other than that I feel happy to be among "my own" so to speak.
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