bit of background: I'm 19, second year of college. pretty unexperienced, I've had a few k-closes throughout my life but only fucked for the first time quite recently, with my first and only LTR (8 months). thing is, way before her, there was this chick in my class, she had a thing for me. she even tried to kiss me (she thought I was going in for a kiss; actually I was just faking it as a playful joke), but at the time I wasn't interested (I wanted a relationship and she just isn't my type, personality wise - besides, I wasn't confident enough I'd be able to just have a one nighter). on the other hand, I've always mantained a flirty attitude towards her because she's pretty hot (HB7.5)

a year and a half later, and having broke up with my GF about a month ago, would it be a good idea to try to FWB her? thing is, I'm hesitant because I might have been fostering her feelings for me for a while now (although I'm not sure how chicks deal with this type of stuff) and I worry she won't be down for just FWB, I don't think she's very experienced either (my guess is she lost her virginity last year as well, she went from nice quiet girl to being with a couple guys now)

I really don't want any drama... as a sidenote, do girls talk to their friends about this type of things? I wouldn't want my ex to know, that would hurt her too much, we're all in the same course (70+ people) but they're not friends and almost never talk to one another... although I know this type of shit might spread like wildfire and reach my inner circle of friends

If you are talking about FWB your ex GF don't do it!
If it's the other girl, sure, why not?
They do talk but usually only between friends. Dude, she's not your gf anymore and the best you can do is go on with your life. Fuck that girl and don't care about your gf. She probably already fucked like 3 guys while you were asking yourself if you should fuck this friend of yours.

Eh, it sounds as if you are in a good place right now. Just go for the lay with that other girl. A few random ideas/thoughts tho:
- Manage her expectations. Make sure that at some point you clearly communicate that you just got out of a relationship, and need time on your own to figure out what you want out of life and so on, and that you would not want to rush into another relationship straight after your current one. You don't want to be leading her on unnecessarily. Don't worry. If she's attracted to you, this will not be a deal breaker and set the frame the way you need it to be.

- Don't hang out or meet her TOO often. Personally, I would restrict myself to 2 meetings a month or so (don't take this number too seriously, it's just an approximation I just made. The frequency with which you can meet her depends on many factors, like for instance how easily she tends to be attached and how often you should be doing her in order to keep her from losing interest). The reason I am saying this is because you definetly want to avoid giving her the impression that you two are a "thing". How much do you usually interact with her in class?

For practical reasons, I would assume that yes, your ex will definetly know about this. How you deal with that is your call to make. Even though I personally fail to see the problem, seeing how they are not friends and your ex is... Well, your ex. Stop making a big deal out of this; I don't think she realistically expects you to stay celibate for a year nor anything.

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It's the other girl, the thing is I was the first guy my ex had ever been with and she had a huge attachment to me (pretty sure she's still in love with me - apparently I'm good with relationships), besides I'm still friends with her and I have a really hard time hurting other people, it took me more than a month to be able to muster the courage to break up with her. What bothers me is not the fact that I'd be with someone else, it's the time factor (it's only been around a month)...

I don't really talk a lot to the possible FWB, although we do see each other daily.. we're not part of the same friend circle though. When I do talk it's mostly flirty conversation, I've never had a serious convo with her other than when I was trying to figure out if she was dating material or not.

I've read Chief's material on FWB (really great stuff, thanks Chief!), and I think I've got the basics down but I'll see how it goes, first time navigating those waters.. any tips are most appreciated! biggest question for me is, in regard to managing expectations, what's the best way to go about it? Simply drop hints that I'm not in for a relationship and I just want no strings attached sex? Or should I do my business first, and after we've actually fucked, talk to her about not wanting anythng? Should I outright ask her about being FWB?

Fuck her first and keep fucking her. When she asks what your relationship is, then you tell her that you guys are friends with benefits.

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