Hey all,

So I've been trying to hookup with my friend of 3 or so years and finally made a move on her a couple weeks ago without her reciprocating. I then stop talking to her for a couple weeks. I had a bike race over the weekend any my team had training pics up on our business Instagram and she started posting comments on there like, "Go guys go". and cheering me on which is cool and all but it got excessive. I run that Instagram my business partner so his phone was getting this comments as well. She also started posting on my personal account as well which I never gave her so that means she was searching for it. It got a bit out of hand so I had to reach out to her via text to strike up a conversation and try to see what the hell was going on.

My partner was wondering what the comments was about and I embarrassedly apologized and told him I'll handle it. I had to text her and just chat towards the end I asked her, "Other than that, everything ok?" She replied, "yes everything was cool." However, I think she just wanted to get my attention I tried to ignore her but that didn't work so I had to do what I did. If you want I can post some of the comments but where do you think I should go from here. This girl had me in the friend zone and I tried to kiss her but she didn't accept so I stopped calling her for a bit. Idk maybe she may want to keep contact or give it another shot. As of now I'm not reaching out to her as I have other things on my plate. Any thoughts on this appreciated. I know the social media especially is for sharing and I'm cool with that and putting shit out there. However, it also has it's limits.

She's signalling for you to approach her again.

She's playing hard to get.

She liked that you approached her. She liked the attention. She wanted you to really pursue her more so she can feel beautiful, wanted, etc.

So pursue her again. Chat her up a bit and ask out again. If she says no. Wait a while and ask her out again.
Rinse and repeat

Side note- I'll pursue girls pretty hard and then stop the pursuit. They know I like them. Then either I contact them in a few months to 6 months or run into them randomly and they are very happy to see me. A guy that wants them but doesn't need them.

Interesting, my friends think she's just trying to control me with her antics on there. Honestly I kindly responded to several of them because I felt that it wouldn't be appropriate if not. This is what the comments said...

Well I won't post any images in relationship with the comments but I'll be as descriptive as possible... I'm on a cycling team and my team and I had training pre race. So there was a photo of me on the trainer at the race sweating and kicking ass during our warm up which was photographed by our team photographer and posted on our team Instagram account. These were post comments from some. I'll refer to the girl as "friendItriedtokiss".

My friend Tim: Dude you are shredded, wtf, kill the race!

Me: Thanks dude, super psyched and on in 40min. @myfriendTim

My friend I tried to kiss: And your still on a bike...impressive...go name go

Me: @friendItriedtokiss Hey name, thanks!

My friend I tried to kiss: You bet!

Me: @friendItriedtokiss Thanks!
now you can just start following me ; )

My friend I tried to kiss: You bet!

The next day she went back to the same photo and said this...

My friend I tried to kiss: Again...sorry its a favorite...

Me: @friendItriedtokiss Prints go for $10 bucks ; )

This was the end for that particular image. There was another one that she posted that she took with her phone a couple of months ago. This pissed me off because I told her not to post it on FB or anywhere else. The picture was of me smiling while we were hanging out and I had a smoothie in one hand and a cookie in the other. Well this is what she did yesterday...

My friend I tried to kiss: (Name) thought I should post because your so cool... with a chocolate chip cookie in one hand and smoothie in other... In the city! Oh with you 13.5hrs through over the bridges down lex and through Williamsburg and all city...

Me: @friendItriedtokiss I forgot you took this, hmmm... This was a damn good night. However, I'm contemplating if what I'm holding would be considered an oxymoron haha.

I didn't take it to serious and kindly responded back, I think she might be excited about Instagram because she just joined a couple months ago and is still getting used to it. However, after what happened a few weeks ago I think she's calling for attention. I had to reach back because my team kept getting these messages along with other nonsense ones on several images that I won't post here. This is enough to exam I'd say.

So I'm going out with friends for New Years. Would it be a bad Idea to ask what she's doing and invite her out as well or should I just wait until after new years.

No dont invite her. It gives her too much 'status', I guess, in your life. For holidays and major party days I won't ask a girl im still trying to solidfy things with, if that makes sense. Big days like that is either solo with my buddies or with a girl i already have a sexual relationship with.

She prob already has plans she'd have to break, and even if she doesnt you should already have kick ass plans that don't involve her as she has opted not to be in your life in the capacity that you want.

Most certainly make sure she knows how awesome of a time she's missed out on, whether that's social media or in a conversation. Obv pics are better, preferably with lovely ladies