Hey fellas. Two weeks ago I a got a new job and began taking the subway to work. On the way home from work I noticed there is sometimes a HB getting on at the same station as me. On Friday I decided to approach. I didn't want to do something like ask her for directions because there are large maps everywhere on the walls, or the time because there are huge clocks on the platforms for both directions. Also even though we never talked or had eye contact I figured she might have seen me a bunch of times and would have known I am a regular on the subway.

So I went up to her and opened: "Hi. I saw you from over there and had to come over and meet you or I would be kicking myself all day. I'm Tommy." while extending my hand. This line had never failed me, girls are always flattered, especially because I'm not directly hitting on them I'm just being nice, so they can't even accuse me of coming onto them. I figured we would start a conversation and continue it on the train and then I could use my stop coming up (since my stop was first) as a time constraint to get her contact info, and then go from there. Instead she smiled (good sign I thought) and responded with. "It takes guts to approach a girl you don't know but I am not interested. Thank-you." She then walked away and went to the other end of the platform to wait. WTF? I was taken aback and had no idea what to do so I didn't follow. The subway train came a minute later.

I have been stewing over this all weekend. I have never been shot down like that, especially when I wasn't even directly sexual or hitting on them. Plus I can't figure out why she smiled (like nicely, not like ha ha ha) and then rejected me. I don't think I got blown out because she was in a bad mood because she smiled and didn't yell at me, so I can't figure this out. I was dressed nice, clean and approached in a non-threatening manor. I worked overtime last week so I have a few days off next week, but I would like to try again if I see her later in the week. I would greatly appreciate any suggestions as to my next move because I am lost here.

No worries bro I'd chalk it up to the randomness of the game. You said this approach has worked for you over and over in the past, so just by the law of averages it was bound to not work at some point. As for this girl, while I normally advocate a level of persistence I think she has made it pretty clear where she stands with this. If it were me I’d leave it alone and move on to other girls.

As to subway openers other than time/directions when it comes to other girls, it can be anything going on, for example, you whisper to her in a covert fashion as though talking to your girlfriend, “what’s with that guy’s hat.” She laughs, you laugh, “ever seen one like that?” Her: “no bla bla” You're in.

As oceanx said, best to just move on instead of being persistent. Your line signals you're interested romantically, sure it's a compliment but that's what it is. She wasn't interested. Maybe she's seeing someone, maybe you're not her type. Even though you were dressed nicely, doesn't mean everyone is gonna be interested. Accept that. Her type may be taller guys, it may be shorter guys, it may be rocker looking guys, it may be thug looking guys. Accept that you're not gonna be, even at your best, a fit for all women, just go out and enjoy yourself and don't take it personally.

Because whether you say "You're hot" or not, she knows why you're talking to her. She knows you are hitting on her. How many times have you seen a man, or an old lady or a child and wandered up and said "I saw you over there, and just had to say hi!"? Probably never, I'd wager. Because you only do that with girls you're interested in.

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