So, met this girl last saturday on a party.
Started really weird she jumped a couple times on my feet and at point i was like "Stop it". So i said something like "Can u pls stop jumping on my feet." She lookd to me and said "Well thats part of the game".
Then i realized the girl was beautifull.

So started to talk a little, she asked my number before i asked hers. After that i was with her all night, kissing eachother allmost non stop touching eachother, taking picture with eachother etc etc. It even felt like she did everything for me, when i needed a drink she walks to the bar for me, when i catched a balloon (Maybe u know the Yellow Balloons at Armin Only during Ping Pong) she was like "I will hold it for u till the end of the night so u can dance" she did the same with my drink, holding it so i could jump or whatever.

Have to tell i used some drugs, she didnt, she didnt drink alcohol aswell! She was 100% sober.

So both went to our own home, when i came home she sended the first message. "Had a great time thank u so much u're so sweet!" she said she was going to bed but we kept talking for 2/3 more hours.. Next day talked again a lot with her she writes like she was writing a book to me very long messages, en said things like "We should go together to this party and this party". She told me what kind of college she does, and that she's in her final year, just couples things about. Becuz of the drugs told her already my entire life story so.. (Fukkin drugs..)

So today not that much talking i didnt had that much to say, i just was like "Im gonna ask her for a date".

To tell u first, we dont life that close, something about a hour with the car!

So i said "well, we say to eachother "Les go together to all this partys" but what about doing something fun together soon?"
Her answer was "Well, u dont life that close. So i dont know!" (Tbh after all those long messages and shit i expected a instant "Yes").

So i answered with "u're absolutely right about that. But i tought after such a fun night together we can always try". She answered with "Well, i had a great time with u! But like u know im in my final year and thats very important to me, i dont have that much time! Can i ask u to see eachother again at a Trance party and then we can see what happens?". Answer: "Im fine with that, i will not force you!" No id why i said "i will not force you"...

I believe her about that she doesnt have that much time, 2 friends of my do the same college (Different city) and they also allmost never have time to do something. + so far she seems like the sweetest girl i ever have spoken with. Allmost everyone get annoyed when i talk that much when i use drugs, she was totally okay with it.

So what do i have to do with this?
Do i have to be patienced? And wait till the next trance party? She still joins me and my group to that party!

Last thing she said was: "Thank you for your understandimg. Im going to bed! Goodnight! X!"
Didnt react on this so far!

Ps. She is 23 i'm 22

Thanks for ya help

so let's see.

you did absolutely nothing. you are not in control. you are the one being gamed not the other way around. you are so clueless. she picked you at a party and liked you. nothing wrong with that since you actually liked her. but she'll will dump you because you are having afc behaviours like sending that afc text. she will soon lose the attraction she had. you are being to anxious.
there's a few things you can do that will actually turn her off but it seams you are doing them. what you could do is starting to have alpha behaviours and start to game her properly. you can escalate things if you don't blow it and f close. it's really not that hard.

So what are my options then? U say i do shit wrong etc, but u're not really telling me what u could do to make it better.. (Except the alpha male thing). Give me some options that would really help.
Becuz now u're just telling me i do fuck it up, thats not that much of a help bro.

I'll appreciate it if u give me some options to try. How to react etc.

Thanksa

dude. all you have to do is to go along with her game. just avoid afc behaviour like "Answer: "Im fine with that, i will not force you!" No id why i said "i will not force you"..."

next time you are with her just kino escalate. it will be a walk in a park. let her have control since you have no clue about what to do and clearly she knows what she wants. so just let her use you.

Lol. This sounds way to easy.
U better not trolling me, will try this out!

If someone has another tip for me, just tell

You didn't live on the edge, all she did too you, you could have done three times more.

Instead of talking about your probably boring life, you should just have blattered some BS and change the subject to how good u were feeling with her, how beautiful she was and just fucking put your hand down in her pants.

She did ALL that because she was emotionally invested.

The next morning she isn't as stimulated, isn't has emotionally invested so you talk message her left brain and get a left brain answer about school and stuff.

It seems you fucked up and it was quite easy, how bad do u want this shit? You got to step it up and learn human relations, sometimes its fast, sometimes it isn't; sometimes u can do, sometimes u can't, everybody is different, everybody is feeling different from time to time.

Now about that one specific girl, you just first not take the BS, cuz ur the man, ur the one with the better left brain, so u say no! you can see me her with 1hr ride and even with ur school (u don't need to say it like that but mean it or say it last resort)

Now its time to burn it to the ground, cuz you got to learn one way or another, and she's just worth burning it. PS. You would have her already if u did it at the party

All i see is these guys giving you abuse and barely any information on how to reframe this scenario.

You can reframe her easily. Hit her up in a week and re-initiate a conversation about how you were at a whicked party and hoped to see her.

Frame the conversation to what you want to talk about and shit like that dont let her lead the way. If she starts talking about school - Just say i dont want to talk about that its boring and running through my head i would rather we spoke about other stuff.

Also to get her out and meet up initiate conversation for a few days feel her out see how shes doing bla bla bla if she starts investing in you again just say to her 'look i know you have alot going on with school and shit but im taking you out for 2 hours max i think we both need a little time to take our minds off everything and have some fun. Escalate on the date, if you were on cocaine which i imagen you were if you were chatting shit loads theres a good chance you were actually kinoing with out knowing.

She should agree too meet, tell her how you'll meet half way and shit.

You havent totally fucked it like these guys above me are saying who happily sit and give barely any constructive advice what so ever.

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Thanks!

In 2 weeks their is a new "Trance" party and i know already she's not going to it! Me neither but who cares.. So will do what u said then!

Will stop talking from now on then. Only thing that was said now is same what she said yesterday evening:
Her: "Thankyou blabla. Im going to bed got headache! Goodnight! X!" (I know i didnt mentioned she said she had a headache didnt seem that important to me).

So after 17 hours i responded with:
"Yours brains probably couldnt handle all the information i gave to u last saturday!"

LOL no cocaine! Took some 4FMP but a bit to much i think, take it allmost at every party but never talked as much as this time.. Even frustrated myself a bit with that much talking, but couldnt stop.

Thanks. Would keep u up to date what happens!

She likes you. She isn't looking for anything serious right now or just to hook up. You driving an hr to see her implies its serious. She rather keep it casual and when she sees you she sees you. Nothing you can really do with the distance.

So basically u say, keep sending messages and see what happens the next time u will see her?

What do you want from this girl?

From what i know about her so far she's the type of girl that i will usually going to like. So would say more then just a bang!