I'm gaming a HB 10 that runs college track. She is only 19 which has me weary so I'm not trying to date. She's just on my bucket list. Her boy friend of 4months is a college football player a year older than her. There relationship is long distance. This is where it gets tough. I slept with her best friend on the track team. Suppose to be a one night thing, but she liked me a lot so we texted for few weeks and it happened a few more times. I broke her off as nice as possible. Afterward HB10 texted me about her friend saying she was upset cause she really liked me & I hurt her. So I replied back with lengthy detailed text explaining how I warned her friend that I didn't not feel the same way & I cant change that. She bought and said she totally understood. I've now texted HB10 randomly in these few weeks after. I've been getting replies with IOI's. I've just hit a road block with the last text she sent me which came out of no where. She said, "I don't get what you want from me." Is this situation possible to pull off or should I move on. The challenge is what keeps you in it sometimes. Any advice on what to reply here? Ideas to get her to go on a date? I feel like she might have a scandalous side.

Well, I'm seeing two scenerios here.

1. She doesn't like you and is getting creeped out, so she is calling you out. "What do you want from me" basically meaning "why are you even messaging me?". I think it's the less likely of the options. I would think she'd more likely give very sparse answers and barely ever reply if she just wasn't interested. Also possible that she sees you as more of a friend, and is starting to get a vibe that you are into her and she is wierded out by it and trying to cut it off at the pass. Unlikely also, since she knows you've been with her friend and apparently are a selective guy with options since you've turned her friend down.

2. She digs you and is giving you a kind of shit test. She knows you are attracted to her and this his her way of asking how worthy you are. Either you get scared off, or you plow through. Most likely scenerio IMO.

I'm curious, does she ever initiate the contact or are you the only one initiating? What are the IOI's? Is she invested at all? What did you send her that made her reply with that?

With more details you'll get more answers, but I'd say barely answer or ignore the question all together.

"What do I want from you? That's a vague question. Did you hear that such n such band is playing at such n such bar this weekend? I've seen them a few times, it's a hell of a show."

That's just an example of something I might text a girl as a response. I'd tailor it to something that we have common interest in. Could be anything from sports to science to music to movies, to something extremely random.

Seems like you're just texting her in a creepy way.

how did you get the number initially? - Did you tell her you think she is attractive and then go for the number?

Or did you get the friendship number close and now you're casually texting her in an indirect way? - hence the 'what do you want from me?'

There is a lack of INTENT

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Good points.

We really need to know if she has invested in you at all and what you consider an IOI. Has there been any real flirting to speak of?

This is literally the 3rd time I've typed this on my phone. The first 2 times my Safari timed out... Thanks for the help. Creeper status over here lol. Nah, but valid points. I'm open to criticism. I guess I've given yall the puzzle with no pieces so here's some background info. The text read "I don't get what you want from me" which IMO is a weird way of wording something (using "get") Text game is on point. It's back and forth(her replying quicker than me) she knows I have a good job and I'm busy so it really hasn't pissed her off when I don't reply for a couple hours. It went down like this. We were texting and I made a joke about something she said then out of the blue she replied, "I'm with Courtney she is my best friend. We can't text we only became friends because you were with her" (court, her friend I slept with) I responded "okay". (I like using "okay" rather than "k" or "ok" cause they are more likely to come off as you've lost your cool or that your upset.) She didn't reply that evening. Next morning she replied, "I'm sorry I didn't mean for that to sound rude" so I texted back "your fine, no big deal". The day went by and finally she responded with the "I don't get what you want from me"

[I think it's funny how this girl is her best friend after knowing her for 1semester, girls... Smh]

I'm taking the apology as an IOI. This is why. If she "can't" be texting me because that's her best friend why has she been responding the days before. On top of that why wouldn't she bring up the fact that she can't text me because she has a boy friend.

Also this may bring new answers. I grew up in a small town, as did she, 15mins from my home town. My mother owns a successful salon with business from all over, she has gone there forever I just never ran into her or met her so we both knew of each other. It's a small town thing. Gossip in the salon brought up my name that I went to college where one of her multiple track scholarships were offered. She added me on fb, messages me of what I thought of the school & town. I gave her the pros and cons, told her if she ever needed someone to show her around that I would. With my number at the end. She mutually replied back with her number say cool sounds great. We never talked after that until a year later when I ran into her and her "best friend" at the bar.

That is a intent free - friendship number close

Just tell her you think she is Very cool and you would like to take her for a drink sometime for romantical purposes

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Exactly what I just did. Sometimes just talking about a situation to someone else gets your head straight. Appreciate the advice. If anybody has some clever ideas on this situation let me know.

Maybe I'm crazy but it sounds like she's interested. She keeps replying back to you even she said she can't text you. And then asked that question. I think she just wants your intentions to be laid out clearly.

At first i thought you had creeped her out. But the fact she told you she didnt want to talk and is actually trying to initiate the conversation with you being so blunt shows shes interested. You've had her friend and she wants to see but she has more to lose than anyone so is extremely extremely wary about it.

This is what i would do. Call her out and just say 'I'm just a cool guy who enjoys a good conversation and a laugh, if i cant be friends with you because of courts then thats cool i have no problem with that but its a little sad we cant have a laugh, what do you want from me?'

This shows your no threat to her atall your not going to run to courts and tell shit or her BF - you also want to slip into the convo somewhere when you can - WE CAN BE SECRET FRIENDS ! lol the only way you will lay her is if not one single person knows and she knows she has no threat of losing her Best friend and boy friend !

hope this helps.

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Much thanks I posted in PUA lounge cause I thought this was kind of a complex challenge but apparently it's general knowledge lol well anyway. This was much help. If your ever in Texas & wanna sarge lemme know!