i was out yesterday and i was gaming this girl I knew and we were about to have sex but i couldn't get hard because i was drunk,
what should i say to her, because i don't want lots of people knowing but don't want to sound insecure?
this has kind of happend to me before, i think its an anxiety thing as i know in my head i definatley want to!
should i still try talk to her because she did infer she wanted to another time?
thanks
really need the advice

If she expressed interest in meeting up again then what do you need help with? Don't bring it up at all, get her out and run your game exactly the same, or even just invite her over for a movie and escalate. If she brings it up, laugh it off and chalk it up to being drunk. "Yea, lol, I haven't drank in a while, shit happens" or "Yea, I can't remember the last time I actually had whiskey dick, it sneaks up on you when you least expect it". Let her know it was the alcohol. If she's interested she won't care, just give it her good this time around and it will be long forgotten.

thanks thats a good perspective but also, do you have any ideas what i can say to her not to tell people because it's very embarrassing.

I'm telling you, don't bring it up, period.

If this girl is going to talk to her girlfriends about it, she is going to do it regardless of if you ask her not to. I promise you 100%. If you were in a serious long term relationship there would be a tiny percent chance you could talk her out of it, but you have a 0% chance right now. She either will or she won't.

But you really shouldn't be worried about it. It happens. If she talks about it with 4 girl friends, at least 2 of those 4 are going to say "oh yeah, I've had that happen before". It's common dude. It's not even embarrassing.

Just give it to her good if you get the chance. That way if she told any of her friends about it, she'll tell them about how good it was when y'all did actually hook up.

Spend your time focused on things you can control and ignore the things you can't.

If she says anything... just say you were drunk. It's really not that big of a deal unless you make it a big deal.

To be honest, it happens to girls alot more than you think. Alot of guys have the same issue you do.

what could i open with, when i send her a message now? usually im good at this but i dunno what would be good to say after a situation like this...
just basically a good message opener to someone you know and nearlly hooked up with

Send her a message that is identical to something you'd send a girl that you did actually hook up with. Get out of your head dude. You already have this. It's not a big deal.

This is happened to me a couple of times and its never ever phased me i always end up bedding them. I normally say 'Well i hope the little guy works this time' In a jokey way ! lol they normally laugh about it. Girls know you will feel insecure about it and wont make a big deal. Just chill dude and fuck the shit out her when the dragon awakens hahaha

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A woman is a lot more likely to care about your reaction to a performance problem than she is about the performance problem itself. I had a girl around who I couldn't get hard with for over a month or so, but she stuck around because i was always cool and humorous about it. I would just eat her out until i got myself right.

As long as it doesn't bother you it will not bother them.

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