I have been seeing a girl I work with for a few months, she's 20 and I'm 27. I work in sales and she's our receptionist. About 6 months ago she started coming on to me. Texting me everyday, and things built up into sexual tension after a few months. We are both in current relationships and cheating. We are a lot alike, we are super attracted to eachother and we click. We are always so sexual, sending eachother dirty pics in between meeting up and always teasing. We also recently text all day everyday, it's apparent we are starting to have feelings for eachother.

The other night she was on her way over late, we were going to hook up and she never showed. A few hours later she started texting me paragraphs worth of reasons why we shouldn't be doing this and how her feelings are really starting to get involved with me.(duh) She also mentioned if her boyfriend found out he would kill me.... and she also told me she's a lot more emotional and different than I think she is (basically excuses and reasons to stop) I kept telling her I completely understand and played it cool... It was just out of the blue and weird considering she's never acted resistant once.

After that night I hadn't heard from her for 2 days. I never tried to text her either, I figured id give her space and time to chill. So today she sends me a random text about how she is getting a new dog and she was excited, I waited a while and then texted her back. We talked about stuff for a while, but she was super short and acted like we were just good friends... No texts like before. My last texts were telling her to have a good night and I'm happy for her she's getting a new dog and she never responded back. I felt like a total bitch texting her I should have just ignored all of it.... My question is what is going on?? She just shut me off cold turkey... She's been posting lyrics on facebook and Instagram about falling in love and what not so I know it's about us.... Just not sure what to do, or say...

Should I freeze out? Should I ignore her texts for a while? She had asked me once if I would ever consider her as my girlfriend so I know she was serious. I'm at a loss guys and I don't know what to do... I really like her

You should break things off with your girlfriend if you're cheating. It isn't right and it puts her at great risk. Or you can focus on your relationship and stop cheating. Either way man, you don't shit where you eat. It isn't worth it.

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If you are thinking anything more than just sex with this girl, you are out of your mind.

You can freeze her out and it'll work.
If she texts you with any of those friendly messages, you can tell her that you don't have time to play childish games with her.

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The reason she re-engaged you in text conversation was because she misses you and there's a void there now.

Depends what you want here - And I agree with the other poster who said that, firstly: you're cheating and have feelings for another girl. Your poor girlfriend doesn't have a clue.

Secondly: You work with her and she's 20. This won't amount to a LTR, she's too young, and too immature (and she sounds a little flighty).

If you want to ignore all that and keep going for her, freeze her out. She'll bite eventually because she misses you.

If you want to keep things professional, I'd still text less. A lot less. Draw an imaginary boundary around what's off limits and just ignore her if she goes beyond it.