So I was out today at the local convienence store and see a girl working there I went to college with. Now she's cool but just about as awkward as me. So bringing up conversation would always fall flat quickly. I find that I'm the type of person that builds off other people's energy. If there's a group of friends talking I can listen in and chime in here and there for great discussion but I can't if the other people have low energy...and this is the problem.

Girls I've met if I say something than they start blabbering on I can quickly keep up and we can hit it off great but if I'm like "So how's that new car you bought, fun??" "Yep." It's hard and I'm not used to it

Well quit saying shit like this.

Man... one thing that really irritates the fuck out of me is when people talk to me about pointless shit that they really don't give a fuck about in order to drag out a conversation due to needing people to accept them.

When you run into someone you know from the past... NEXT TIME...

"Hey! How are you?"

"Long time no see."

"What have you been up to?"

"How's life?"

Anything of that nature. And just feed off of what she says. Get out of your house more often dude. Go get a job that requires you to interact with other people in order to make money.

I don't say shit like that, it was an example off the top of my head. I don't say stuff like that and have everything screech to a halt, I'm referring to situations with specifically awkward/shy girls where it's a one sided conversation and this in turn drags me down in social vibes

All those phrases are just as bad as my poor example. One of the first things PUA teaches you is not to say "Hey" or "How are you" because it's boring and leads no where. THAT'S what I want to get away from. And don't talk down to me about getting a job, I have a fucking job, I don't know why you'd assume I don't

Now that we've got more than a vague few words on what your problem is... okay.

I got it.

Quit trying to be a pooah master. Why the fuck are you trying to get a girl who's awkward as fuck to talk anyways? Just walk away!!

Second... you're relying on other people to give you good energy. Which is exactly why you need your special opener or routine... To ensure that you get a good reaction from the girl. You then feed off her good energy and go into an upward spiral of good energy from her. You're an energy leech. Sorry dude... but people don't like leeches. Once they figure out your "game"... you're fucked. And not in a good way.

Learn how to be a good source of energy on your own and give that good vibe off to other people. If you're relying on good reactions from girls to put you into a good mood in social situations... you're going to get really frustrated and have ALOT of nights where you go home crying cause girls weren't going along with your "routine stack."
If that's the first thing you learned then you've learned something that is just going to hold you back. You think that if you say some special lines or routines... girls are going to drop their panties for you no matter what type of person you are.

Here's what I'd say you REALLY need to work on:

1. Stop needing everyone to like you. It's pretty pathetic. Understandable in today's society but really pathetic when you take a step back and look at it. Just make peace with the fact that there are ALOT of people out there who do not like you.

2. Work on yourself as a man. It really doesn't matter what you say as long as the girl can feel the masculine energy and sexuality coming from you. If you want beautiful women in your life, all you've gotta do is be the man that beautiful women want. No lines. No routines. Just you. It's real and that's what girls like.

3. Quit taking shit so personally. Dude... I wasn't attacking you. I was trying to help you... Relax
If you're a socially awkward guy or you don't know how to read people, go get a job where you have no other choice but to talk to people. Otherwise, you don't make any money. A sales job is what I'm getting at.

Getting good with girls has nothing to do with what you say or do... It's who you are. The real you shows through no matter what you say... You can't "trick fuck" girls man. (that's what you're trying to do when you look at it from mine and a girls point of view.) They are too intuitive.

I actually found some good advice from your post, I'm sorry for not realizing you're just trying to help. I guess you guys call it tough love heh

But yeah I'm not really pursuing her, it's just a girl I know who I bump into sometimes. I wanted to analyze the interactions with this one particular girl (She approached and asked my number first time I met her).

I'm not getting stumbled over routines though, I don't use canned stuff much, I'm just still trying to build my inner confidence and some situations are still roadblocks for me

I'm still trying to understand why some of the newer guys within this community feel it is important that they try to attract every attractive women that they see. Sure there are ways to create attraction with a girl who has no initial attraction to you but I find that to be swimming upstream. Why not just attract the types of women that provide you with the kind of energy that you can feed off of? The types of women for you.

But all in all what you are speaking of comes with social experiences. Getting good socially is just like getting good at anything else. It takes practice. You'll get better and better at managing that awkward energy the more you put yourself within the line of it.

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Change this. You go first. Bring good vibes in. Women will generally mirror your energy.
Ask girls less yes/no questions and start asking more open-ended questions.