Hello everybody,

I decided to create this post asking for some advice about my situation.

I'm 22, good looking, 6' 3'' tall, finishing university masters degree, making gains at the gym, very down to earth thinking, don't smoke or drink, BUT never had a girlfriend.

I'm very communicative and nice with everybody around me but when the goal is try to ask a girl out, or show interest in her I'm shy and insecure. Sometimes I don't even try with the fear of rejection and what she could think of me trying to ask her out, or maybe she can have a boyfriend already.

Although older people than me give compliments all the time saying that "i'm very handsome, smart, have a great physique, that for sure I have all kinds of girls asking me out'' that's not the true by far, and makes me kinda sad.

Greetings and will be waiting a reply.
Thanks

Weird ... you should be getting girls easy... have you tried to go up to girls and just talk to them .. for example something simple like, "Hey I'm [yourname]" what happens?

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When around girls, keep things light, fun and playful. Stay away from serious or content-rich topics. If you can do that, girls will ASK you out if you are goodlooking, physically fit, smart and cool as you say.

You can build your confidence from there.

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Hi TheFury and Hellhound thanks for your quick reply.
In fact, usually when I go talk to a girl if my intention is to have a casual conversation, ask information about something (i.e. in a store), I get positive feedback and everybody is nice to me. They are friendly, professional and smile to me looking straight into my eyes, sometimes one or other giggle. Usually I don't get asked out by girls though.

But if I feel attracted or have interest in a girl, I start to get anxious, thinking a lot about what to do and to say, with fear to get out of the comfort zone and approach her, and possibly be rejected.

In example, there's a girl that works in a stationery (magazine and newspaper store) near my house and I usually go daily to the coffee shop right after. Sometimes I look at her and notice that she looks at me too, if I smile to her she corresponds. The other day I smiled to her and said ''Hi, good afternoon, how are you''. Other times it's her who does the same thing first; I'm curious about her but don't really know how to approach her in other therms. If I start to thinking about asking her out or try to ask her number I get anxious, my hands start to sweat and feel uncomfortable, without knowing what to do.

Thanks

That's normal, BORING conversation. It isn't light, fun and playful.

Try something like this (field tested):

"You're not from here. I can tell."

"Really? But I live in this city./ How did you guess?"

"Oh, I thought you're from heaven. / I think you're from heaven."

"Hahaha. So now, I'm an angel?"

"Not really. I thought you were an angel of darkness. There's something about you that says you're a good girl on the outside but a bad girl in the inside. Btw, I'm [your name here and shake her hand.]"

Do that a dozen times and by the 6th or 7th approach, when you're no longer nervous, you'll get better results.

By the way, before you go out and sarge, in the privacy of your bedroom, raise both of your arms in a V-shape, maintain the position and count up to 200. You'll pump up your testosterone easily by 20%. That will give you a confidence boost to talk to girls. And the more girls you approach in a given day, the higher your testosterone levels will jack up until you have more than enough for the 6th or 7th approach for the day.

You'll know that your testosterone is sky high when you're having a hard on while interacting with a girl. That's when it gets good. The girl will keep on looking at your crotch. Act nonchalantly as if you did not notice that she kept on looking at your hard cock. When you notice her blushing and looking down at the floor, ask her immediately for an instadate, something like, "What time you're off? Let's grab some coffee. I'll get back to you later."

Of course, she can't suck your cock in a coffee shop but use the isolation bounce as a preliminary move to isolation in your apartment when she gets comfortable. Once you have isolated her in your apartment, let her relax for awhile and do some strip tease. When she starts giggling, take out your cock, hold her hand and guide her hand towards your cock so she can stroke it.

You'll figure out the rest.

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SMFH..................

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I was the same way you describe, right down to the comments from people saying "ah hell man the girls must be all over you" which yes feels like horseshit when you know in your heart it is not true from the standpoint of actually having sex with them.

Hell, there are male models and billionaires - yes billionaires - who are absolute SHIT when it comes to women. Bottom line you have to put in the hard yards of getting out there, opening your mouth and having the INTENT to lay it on the line and express your intentions to the girls as a man.

Hit the streets and talk to girls - not just hired guns. The requirement is for you to overcome your approach anxiety and your rejection anxiety and to say "fuck it I'm going for it."

The pain of not being with women has to overcome the perceived pain of opening them and until that day comes, you will continue to not approach.

You are the same way I was - you are acting in too much of a "nice" manner. That's all fine and well for professional transactions and dealing with your neighbors. But we are trying to have sex with women. That requires a different approach.

You state you may be overqualified. You're underqualified in the fact that you need to add an aspect to your personality:

You need a bit of an edge.

And not in a negative way.

Just the mere fact of you having a chat with a girl, trading some info about eachother and taking her number or taking her on an instant date is all the edge you need.

They can see it in your eyes that your intent is NOT to be their best friend who they tell all their problems to and take shopping with them.

Oh no.

Your intent is clear and she KNOWS from your demeanor and your body language that if she is ever alone with you, it's on.

When a girl sees that you're turned on and have a hard cock while interacting with her, look for any submissive cues from her end. If she's being submissive, isolate. If she isolates with you, it's on.

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Exactly oceanx! So I have to work on that edge and trick my brain to act natural and not have affraid, because the anxiety forms when I say to myself ''I'm interest in her''.

Hellhound never happened to me to be hard while only talking with a girl, but seems awkward.

Your testosterone level is very low. Most girls like high testosterone guys, especially for casual sex. Likewise, if you have a very low sex drive, most girls can feel that and reflect the no-sexual-interest vibe you're projecting on them back to you. It's plain mirroring why girls are not asking you out despite having good looks and a good physique.

When I am sexual, most girls are also sexual around me; even the conservative ones. Many girls ask me out. I reject most of them since I can't be going out with everyone of them. If you feel awkward, girls can sense that too and feel awkward around you.

Last night, I asked a girl out but I said that she's treating me out to lunch today. She had to pay, I told her with certainty. She said yes. I had this massive hard on around her and she couldn't help but look at the bulge in my pants. Now, will she flake come lunch time? Most probably not.

I'll let you know after lunch today.

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Your anxiety is forming because you (your ego in particular) are terrified of rejection. And, rejection will happen! More than once! Oh fucking well, that's life. Get out there and give it a go. You already aren't sleeping with her. The worst that happens is that you still aren't sleeping with her. The best that happens is..........up to you.......

OP, f-close done. We fucked before we had lunch and fucked some more after lunch. Her treat.

If you want to get good with women, you have to approach at least 3 dozen girls a week and assess what you're doing wrong or right every half a dozen sarge so you can correct your sarges for the next half a dozen batch.

If you're an average learner like me, you can't get the hang of it for the first or second dozen. A few are fast learners though.

It's your choice. Approach and bang pussy or do NOT approach at all and wallow in self pity why you're not getting laid despite being good looking and physically fit.

Learn how to interact well, hold an interesting convo, project a masculine and dominant body language, isolate and bang girls real good. Fix this weak area in your life, NOW.

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^ TBH OP, for fucks sake if this quoted text doesn't get you out into the field nothing will and you may as well turn in your mancard (toughlove).

OP, i have so many examples of how i was a little bitch of an AFC who turned down one amazing opportunity after another with women that it is quite frankly the most embarrassing thing of my life.

Just thinking about it now, my brain is firing off girl after girl, missed opportunity after missed opportunity.

They were serving themselves up on a silver motherfucking platter and I just sat there like a CHUMP.

The day I decided to grab my balls, face my unfounded "fears" and actually show my interest/intent to girls it was the most exhilarating and freeing day of my life.

I invite you to do the same. You will never look back. You won't be sitting there at 100 years old in a nursing home thinking "what could have been." Rather, you'll live with many fewer regrets than most people have. I urge you to get in the game.

A quick followup on this point: Today I heard firsthand that a billionaire was at an event and asked an acquaintance of mine, "what will it take to bring (girlsname; a girl who works for my acquaintance) to France for a month."

(Implying that he would pay her a certain dollar amount to bring her there).

He said, "you'll have to ask her."

Did he ever ask her?

No.

He was too much of a pussy.

This bloke thought he could buy her thirdhand and simply have her go over there with him.

Does it work sometimes? I'm sure it does, when the girl approves. Does the girl ultimately respect him for anything other than his money? What do you think.

A guy who is good at this game is truly in the 1% of all men on the planet when it comes to seduction. Money and looks mean jack shit.

Do you have a verbal rap? That is the key question. 99% of guys don't and they also don't take the time to develop and hone one.

wow impressive !! thanks for sharing that with us!!