I have been trying to get w/ this on bartender for a while now and I really didn't think things were going that well, but I kept going there b/c a buddy of mine hangs out there sometimes and there are other girls there also. A few weeks ago, I was in the bar. She was there, but she was not working. She makes a point to come over and talk to me. Anyways, I was having a real bad day and meeting some strange people, so I wasn't in the most social of moods--a drink would have helped. I was being a little bit short and pretty aloof with her then she just walks away. A week later, I go in when she is working and she is pretty butt hurt, so I try to be a little bit nicer than usual --I was thinking that I probably went too much to the asshole extreme--but it didn't work.

I was thinking about doing some heavy, nice flirting and act like nothing happened. What do you guys think?

She went up to talk and you were a bit standoffish so she thought "ok not doing that again." Since she is an employee of an establishment you go to and since you probably don't want her spitting in any of your drinks you could simply go to her while being in a good mood and say offhandedly 'hey' 'yeah i was being a bit of an asshole when u came up to me a couple weeks ago'. That's not a 'game move' but more of a 'life move'. Could even offer to 'make it up to her' if she takes it well.

Yeah, I will try that. I really am kind of confused b/c I was just a little bit standoffish. I didn't totally blow her off or anything. Also, I was not being manipulative or trying to use an “aloof” technique. I was just genuinely having a weird day.

BTW, I do not use negs. I think negs only work on women who are acting like bitches and I am not attracted to bitches. I am even very careful of light teasing. I guess I should start a thread on how to deal w/ really sensitive women

Yeah you may even after saying 'hey' decide that it's not worth it to even address it and to just move on from it altogether. Normally I wouldn't think twice about it and there's a chance that she sees this (you sort of "apologizing" to her) as a supplicative move and would treat you even worse in the future because of lack of respect. (That's why "game moves" are usually aimed at raising not lowering the woman's respect towards you). This is a unique situation; I'd probably still err on the side of just being human about the whole thing, which again could backfire but I really don't see any other way to handle it.